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AHHH, this is a sticky situation
14/F
Hi!! okay, so, there's this guy that i'm REALLY into, but the problem is, that i can barely understand what he says. most of the time i guess what he's said, and just nod my head, or laugh a little hoping and praying its the correct response. so then when i get tired of that method, i just say, "what?". then he repeats it and i understand. .....i know you're probable thinking, ok, so what's the problem??
well, i think he might ask me out, not sure on that one though, and i don't want to say what, what what?? every 2 seconds...does anybody have some advice as to what i could do to not make the situation really and truely akward??(i'm REALLY into this guy, and want a good and loving relationship, not an akward one!!!)
thanx!!
xox
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You didn't really explain why you have trouble understanding him--whether it's a strong accent, or if he speaks too quickly, or if he just doesn't speak clearly. How you proceed is really based on which reason it is.
But whatever reason, he's going to find out eventually that you don't understand him, and the best way to find out is directly from you. Tell him gently that you have difficulty understanding him because _____ and then talk about ways you can resolve it. Don't make it all about him, and try not to sound accusatory, just state what you wrote here in a kind and straight-forward way.
If he over-reacts and gets hostile, well, is he really someone you want to be with anyway?
And if he really likes you, he'll try and work with you to find a way to communicate more efficiently.
Good luck!
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