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my divorced parents...were do i live now?
ok, i have to go through a bit of my past for you to help me with this so here goes...
my parents have been divorced since i was about 2-3, my mom has full costody of me. i'm now 15/f. my mom has always been there for me, always kept me safe, although a little strict. i have a 15min phone limit, i have to be in bed by 10 (i'm not complaining about that one) i can't be out past 8, i can't be out past 5 with my boyfriend. my mom and i have a close relationship, but sometimes she gets mad at me and it makes me want to hit something ( i never do) for lack of other ways to release my emotions. my dad is an alcohalic, but he has been sober for 3-4 year now. he can be perswasive (he can get just about anyone to do just about anything) and he used to scare me when he was drunk. he never hit me, don't worry. i get to see my dad every second weekend and just about every thrusday and sunday for a couple of hours. also, i promised my mom when i was young that i would never go and live with my dad, because of all the things he had done in the past..(when he was drunk, he threatened to give me up for addoption to my step dad) but that was when he was drinking. he also has a girlfriend now that keeps him in line and they plan on moving in together in the spring..
now here is my delema..i want to live with my dad..and my mom..my mom won't go for joing custody (when i asked i got a very long lecture) and i don't want to brake my mom's heart..but i've been living with my mom for almost 13 years that i can remember, and i wan't to spend more time with my dad...what do i do? please help me...
p.s. my mind tells me to live with my mom, but it also sais that dad deserves more time with me..and so does my heart i think...
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Have you talked to your mom about how you feel?
Let her know that you want to keep living with her, but that you think that you should be spending more time with him. Just because SHE doesn't want him in HER life doesn't mean that you don't either. Tell her how important it is to you that you are able to spend time with both of them.
One of my friends went to her father's house every other weekend, and that worked out well... she spent most of her time at her mom's, but still got to see her father.
As for your mom being strict, just remember that she has your best interests in mind. My parents were pretty strict too, which I hated, but now that I'm living away from home I feel a lot better about it. It's tough, but it means she cares about you :)
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