This year this guy my friend liked 3 years ago is in my english class. It was really awkward because she was literally obsessive and we were best friends but she moved 2 years ago and everything pretty much died down. That was 7th grade and now its 10th and hes changed ALOT. He was really quiet in the beginning of the year but about 2 weeks ago we started talking and we have alot in common. Its so weird because hes always been so quiet and now i cant get him to shut up! I guess the strangest part is, he doesnt seem to be the type of person to start up a conversation but whenever he sees me he just starts talking and we talk forever. My problem is, he liked one of my friends a year ago and shes in my english class too. I dont think he still likes her b/c it was a year ago but im still paranoyed, and i dont want to set myself up for another disappointment. Im also worried about what happened in 7th grade between him and my friend makes him think that im just as crazy, but that was a long time ago and im not, but i dont want to bring it up and things get awkward. we get along really well and i feel like this one may actually work out, but i really dont want to mess this up. Please someone help me straighten this out!
MelLeDisko answered Sunday December 3 2006, 3:46 pm: Well if this is three years later, and he's automatically going to assume you're like your friend, whose a totally different human being and you've changed and matured, then he's obviously not thinking clearly. It sounds to me like he doesn't think that at all, though.
I'm sure it's not going to get awkward at all - like I said, it was three years ago. I'm sure you two can have conversations about the past and be just fine. It's only going to become awkward if you two make it become awkward. Just keep the conversation flowing and just share some laughs even about the past to lighten the mood between you two if it gets tense.
I think you have a great chance with him, so just keep doing what you're doing and talk to him! Show him how great you guys'd be together, and how much the two of you guys have in common. And also, try and flirt a little here and there and maybe do it some more every few days to try and send him some signals that you're interested, and see how he reacts. Don't be discouraged though if he doesn't do anything back - sometimes guys can't pick up on hints as easily as girls can, so he might not even be noticing you're flirting with him. Which means then you can flirt even more if you want to get the signal across that you're interested.
orphans answered Sunday December 3 2006, 12:41 pm: If you guys are in the 10th grade, then i think he should be mature enough to be able to talk about his past mistakes without disowning you. Just don't rub it in his face, because i'm sure he's at least a little embarrased over his obsessive behavior. i don't understand why he'd think you were crazy because of what happened when you were in 7th grade...best of luck! [ orphans's advice column | Ask orphans A Question ]
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