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I think I lost my friend
Hi! My name is Rachel! I like this guy named Toby and me and him have been friends since our freshman year and we're sophmores rite now. But i think i lost his friendship. Ok i like him he has a girlfriend and me and him text. I texted him for the first time like 2 months ago when he gave me his number. I heard he liked sumone else that was not his girlfriend. So I asked him and he said no. But the bad part is that he knows I like him. So we were talking and im like 'I know you dont like me and its ok' And he said 'No I do like you i just know katie (his girlfriends name) better' Im like 'Exactly thats why your going out with her because u know her better . . . we're just friends rite? . . . .' And then he replied 'Right but if it doesnt work out between me and katie can I call you?' And i sed 'No . . . but you can call me to talk' And then he said 'ok but rite now im busy' And i said ok well i gotta go bye' And then yeah. And I have gotten a couple of flirty text from him. But then when I asked him if he liked me through a text he didnt reply i showed it to my friend and she resent it!! And when she did he said 'no I dont' And then that was three weeks ago. I havent talked to him ever since then. Just two times through text. But now since his girlfriend knows I like him she is mad at me for all the texting me and him have done. And then through an email he told me he would go out with me because . . . . (he just gave me reasons). (through email which was about two months ago is wen he gave me his number and a short while after we started texting) And yeah but i know why she's mad at me I mean i text her boyfriend but . . . My friend thinks that she told him to ignore me and he is ignoring me. But I just want her to know that I want my FRIEND back because toby other than bieng my crush hes my friend too and she took that away from me! But Im really sad because I havent gotten any hi's or hugs from him in 3 weeks. When he would always give me like 4 hugs a day. The worst part is that I told him that I didnt want to tell him because I thought that our friendship would change. And then it was fine at first then he started ignoring me. 2 months after he found out I liked him. Does he like me or not? Why is he playing with me like this?
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Hm, as for the first question, this is majorly confusing. It sounds to me like he might both like you AND he likes his girlfriend, he just doesn't know which to choose, so he might be keeping the both of you around till he decides. ( Hence all the flirty texts and whatnot. He may think that by showing you some attention or whatever, you'll wait around longer. )
But if he likes you or not, I seriously wouldn't wait or go after this kid any longer in a relationship sort of way. You shouldn't have to wait around for some guy to decide wether he likes you or his girlfriend not, and he especially shouldn't be sending other girls signals while he HAS a girlfriend. Just think, if you were to date him, you would be sitting there wondering if he's out sending other girls flirty texts too. It just sounds like major confusment and drama to me.
Guys always play with girls like this. They always like seeing how many girtls like them and tell them they like them and everything. It gives them a huge ego boost.
To me, it seriously doesn't sound like he's purposely trying to be a huge jerk and play everyone around like this, liek I said, he just sounds majorly confused between who he likes, and who he should go after and be with.
If you want your FRIEND back, I would email or walk up to his girlfriend in school or somewhere and ask her if you can talk to her about this whole situation. And just be like,"Yes, I will admit that I like him, but I'm not going to pursue anything with him, I swear. Now I don't know if you told him to ignore me or what or if he's just ignoring me himself, but I really just want him as a friend. I just want my friend back, is all." Or something like that and just let her know how you feel. Hopefully, she's mature and understanding and she'll let the two of you at least be friends.
But like I said, on a more romantic note? I wouldn't pursue anything. You don't need a guy whose confused about his feelings and everything and is playing you and his girlfriend around like this. Find a guy who knows if he likes you or not, and wants to date you and have a great time with you. And just keep this guy as a friend, nothing more.
I hope I helped.
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