The chances are much, MUCH higher if the penis actually goes inside you.
Still, I wouldn't say it's safe to let a penis touch the outside of your vagina. Pop a condom on that penis! This way, you don't have to worry about STIs or possible pregnancies. [ alisonmarie's advice column | Ask alisonmarie A Question ]
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