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I messed up a 9 year friendship
so heres the story...i kept ditching my best friend for my boyfriend. after like 10 times my friend stopped talking to me. i dont blame her for it. she was always there for me and i messed it up. shes like a sister to me and now she wont talk to me. please can you help me.
sincerely, friendless
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A: Dear Friendless,
this is a sad story. :(
i've actually seen this happen before and let me tell you it ain't pretty.
first off, don't blame yourself for the failure of the friendship. most friendships involve more than one party and takes more than one person to ruin. given, you probably shouldn't have left your best friend for a boy but she could've done more as well.
you and her should talk it out. these things usually happen because of small things like miscommunication or misunderstandings. if you guys are/were really best friends then this should not be too hard.
she is probably hurt that you left her for a boy but it sounds like you're more hurt that she left you. try to talk it out with her and if she's still stubborn about it then maybe she wasn't all that great of a friend to begin with. if your 9 year relationship meant that much to her she would try to make an effort to fix it too.
i know that this is a hard time for you, losing your best friend is like losing the front-left tire of your car in the middle of an abandoned road; you feel stuck, helpless, and alone.
hope things get better,
Thesammysammys
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