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Unconfident Friend.. how can I help her?
I have this friend, and shes like a rocker girl who likes ACDC and after knowing her since like first grade, Im okay with that. But shes so unconfident and thinks shes like super ugly and nobody likes her, and i tell her she isnt and like try to help her improve, but it hasnt really been helping. also with her grades, which have been dropping, and she likes some guy and is devoting alot of time to get his attention when he supposedly might like someone else! (she says hes nice to her.. but nothing has happened!) i mean, maybe if she tried a little in school and like not became too nice, but really acted like herself, she could improve. but it hasnt happened, and its getting a little annoying to listen to all of her problems, when all i want to have some fun with her.. but its changed since we entered middle school, last year. maybe im being too strict.. i mean i've coped with her and gave her advice, but what can i do? i dont want to end our friendship, but how can i make her feel better about herself? also.. like sometimes she tries too hard, and she says like completely random stuff.. i mean i think theres a point where you're being yourself and another would be just stretching it.. you know what I mean? aaaaaaaaaaack. i know how it feels to be uncomfortable in social situations, but whenever i'm meeting new people and stuff she always crowds around me and doesnt even talk to the others.. when she wants to be more social! even like a hi or something. i guess shyness is hard to overcome (though im kinda shy too, but only in school).
sorry this was real long, but theres alot to say! thanks for helping too!
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Why don't you tell her what you just told us. It's all you can do. Try to bring it in a friendly and nonjudging way though, there's no use in risking your friendship when you're trying to help her. But really, talking to her is all you can do.
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