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Feeling Helpless And Sad :(


Question Posted Sunday November 5 2006, 8:28 pm

Recently my mom has gone away on business. My dad has been a real jerk lately, only calling on me to clean the house, not once saying a word to 1 of my 3 brothers who are also perfectly capable of cleaning the house. He also grounds me excessively for no reason. I've tried talking to him, asked my mom to talk to him, and asked his sister to talk to him, but he doesn't listen to any of them. HE WON'T EVEN LET ME GO TO CHURCH! I mean, what is up with that? Is there any way at all that I can get him to lighten my load? He gets angry sort of easily, so I don't want to come off as disrespectful or angry to him. Please, PLEASE help me. I don't know what to do and he keeps twisting my words around to make it sound like I'M the one whining and in the wrong. I really really really need help.



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Additional info, added Friday November 17 2006, 12:33 pm:
I feel like crying all the time, and my grades are dropping drastically(I am a B- or above student). I now have 2 D-. Thank you so much for helping me out. My dad is now also under SRS investigation. We might have to go into foster care. I will most likely have to move a few hours away w/o any visitation. I can't move away from my family and friends. I feel like I would die without them. :( T_T.

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Elcee answered Monday November 6 2006, 5:40 am:
Can you hang on until your Mum comes home? Some men see the home duties as exclusively the female domain. Ask your brothers if they would help share the load and explain to them why you need their help.

If your Dad most definitely will not listen to you talk perhaps you could try writing him a note asking for his permission to allow you to go to Church.

At school ask your Teachers for some advice - they may be able to help you with your grades for a while. If they know you have a problem at home perhaps they will go easy on you for a couple of weeks.

Nothing ever lasts forever and what seems like a big deal today will seem like small peanuts tomorrow. You just need to be able to lean on someone else for a while, be it a relative, brother, teacher or your Church Minister. Ask for help of these people.

I wish you all the best. Good luck.

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