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Fighting with Sister
The following message is from my younger brother and not from me (ty1993). He doesn't have an account.
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Hi. Thank you for reading this! My sister is named Lauren. I constantly have fights with her, and it is always me who gets in to trouble with my parents. I really want to stop fighting with my sister so that I can grow up and have a good relationship with her. Are there any ways to stop fighting with her quickly and easily? Please help me with my problem. I hate fighting with my parents also. About 99% of my fights with my parents are related to me fighting with my sister. I really need to stop this. Thank you very much for your help.
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Everyone has disagreements and some fights are actually healthy. It is better to communicate than to hold everything in. The important thing to remember is that words can hurt and a cycle of useless strife that never comes to a peaceful conclusion is a lot of wasted effort and pain. When we fight in a hostile way, it is not just the other person who suffers, you suffer and others suffer. It causes the whole family stress. Sometimes stress is good, it motivates us to change or fix something. We just don't want to live in it daily! You and your sister are human, and both have strengths and weaknesses. It is hard for people to get along when they are living together, even people who love each other. Some fights you will both outgrow and laugh at when you are both older. It takes two people to fight, so do not blame or let others blame you entirely. You can only take responsibility for and change what you say and do. Others are responsible for there own reactions and feelings. If you are constantly arguing about the same things, then the problem is just not being solved. Look objectively at the problem and try to find a solution together that works for both of you or a compromise. Problems often have many solutions that are overlooked because we all just want our own way and refuse to get creative and put in the effort and set aside our pride. Think about what it must be like to be in each other's shoes and listen to one another. There are usually very hurt or misunderstood communications behind fighting. We all want the same basic things in life, so respect one another and find a way to talk to each other calmly and maturely. Write a list of everything you want and what you think the problem is, instead of fighting and bring it to your parents. They will appreciate the mature way you both calmly and quietly present the problems and they will be more likely to help you come up with solution ideas. You are a family, and a family is like a testing ground for how you will do in the world. We often take each other for granted when we are family, but this is not good. Love each other, because you never know how long you have together.
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Any time you see that you are in the situation were you will fight with your sister, jus tleave the room, and if she stillis trying to get
into a fight with you then you need to go to your parents and try to let them know how you feel. If this doesn't work, set up a meeting with your family with yoru school guidence counselor. Hope I helped, good luck!
-Brina
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I have a friend named Lauren and it almost seems she has the same problem. Just try to stay out of it. Avoid getting in the middle of anything and try to be the solution not the problem. Good luck!
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