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Eesh!! sorry it's long.
There's this guy called Justin who's in my English, History and Games lessons. And I always knew he liked me, and before the holidays he asked me out. And I have no idea why I said yes because he just isn't the right person for me at all. In fact for the whole 6 weeks we were going out I didn't meet up with him once. I must have had ONE conversation during the whole thing. I wasn't attracted to him in the slightest. And in the end after putting it off for a while, I dumped him. I don't speak to him as much anymore.
But about a week after we broke up, I got told he was in LOVE with me, and that he had bought me a present - a sliver necklace, I've found out since. He asked a friend of mine to give it me, but he refused and told him he was becoming minorly stalkerish and had to sort himself out. He left notes for me on my Bebo and messages for me on his MSN screen name and talked to people about me and it started to freak me out. He asked me to the prom as well. He would txt me and email me - one said that he'd always have hope for us, and that he hoped he would marry me. I just ignored it all, and after about a month he seemed to get the hint and he stopped.
Now he's made up a girlfriend to try and make me jealous. He's created a profile for her on bebo, and 'she' emails me talking about him. I'd stopped feeling guilty by this time, and think he's just immature and so on.
Except he just signed online, and his screen name was saying that he should have never asked me out. And I know it was all my fault and I feel guilty as hell, but he just doesn't seem to give up. What can I do!?
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I would have a serious talk with him about this, because that's the only way you can ever try and get him to understand and stop, hopefully.
Just IM him and be like,"I need to talk to you. I know it was all my fault and I feel guilty and everything, but posting all these screenames saying you never should've dated me and having your girlfriend or whatever constantly emailing me about you isn't helping anything. I don't know if you're trying to make me mad, or make me want to go back out with you, but I'm sorry, it's not going to work either way. Would you have wanted me to keep the relationship going, get you more emotionally involved, and then have you more hurt in the end? I didn't want to "pity date" you, and I didn't want to lie to you. I mean I do feel horrible for hurting your feelings, but like I said, I'd feel even worse letting everything drag on as some lie." ( Or something like that ).
And just let him know everything you're feeling, but remember to be considerate of his feelings and don't say anything to rash or hurtful, you know? Just explain to him that you know he loved/loves you and everything, but doing all this isn't going to help him in any way. It's only going to drive you further away. You'd really like to be friends with him, but the chances of that happening are starting to slim if all this trying to make you jealous and everything is going to keep continuing.
And if he really does love you like he seems to, he'll want to be your friend because it's better to have someone in your life at least as a friend then nothing at all, right? And hopefully over time, he'll start to be more and more of a friend to you, and sooner or later, he'll slowly start to think of you less as a "lover" and more as a friend, and he'll move on.
I hope I helped.
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