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alright i'm pretty depressed here but i dunno if i should be or not, my boyfriend of 11½ months just told me that this gurl on the net thretened to tell me that he cheated on me if he didnt show her his penis on his web cam, in a panik he did. i feel like he kinda cheated on me because he could of just said no, but he sais he was just paniking and thats the only reason he did it. i'm mad because he had already blocked this gurl because she was calling him her babe and then he just suddenly desided to unblock her today and this happened. what should i do about it? Is it ok for me to be depressed?
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Depressed, no. Angry, yes.
Hopefully you do realise that its far more likely that your BF was flirting with this woman, then went 'internet perv' and showed her his manhood. This is followed by her being angry for whatever reason, out comes the threat, and he blocked her - likely not because "She calls me babe" but rather because he knew he was going to be in a ton of trouble for this stunt, if and when you found out. I also think its highly likely that the only reason he told you about this is that he was afraid you would find out anyways, and he wanted to break it to you in a way he could control so that he could try to pull the wool over your eyes.
People don't panic and wave their privates for others to see...if your BF truly panicked he would have simply turned the cam off, ended the IM, and THEN blocked her. IMO the mere fact that he gave you this line of BS expecting you to believe it is enough to break up with him, I'd drop this guy like a hot potato. The only other possible explanation in my mind is that this IS true, but that would make him a moron on such a scale that its rarely been seen on the internet...and you might still want to dump him. Whats next, "I was jogging and tripped, and I, erm, fell into this woman, and now she's pregnant...it was an accident, I swear!"?
But I don't know whats up with people meeting others by IM'ing when they have a BF/GF at home, flashing uglies on webcams, this is all silly crap. And even if they didn't have anything physical, IMO its somewhat akin to 'cheating in spirit'.
I feel sorry for you, and the only thing I would be depressed about is that you had to come in contact with something like this in RL. Dump this guy, seriously, and move on - no one deserves having to deal with this.
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Our feelings give us our internal wellness measurement, and yours are telling you that you are in an unhealthy situation. Welcome the information that you are feeling as a clue that something needs to change. This boyfriend most likely has been unfaithful or at the very least untruthful. No one does what he did out of panic, and if he was afraid of the truth, the truth is that he cheated in the first place. Either way, he is pretty guilty, and the worst of it is that he is lying to you and making up excuses for his behavior. You deserve better and you know this! Your depression over this situation will worsen the longer you try to make yourself believe his lies and excuses, because you can't really trick yourself without consequence to yourself. He has many problems, and right now you have to purge yourself of his deceit and see him for who he really is. Look at his actions, and they will speak the truth. Don't listen to any more lies. You will do much better without him in your life, and you deserve to feel happy and whole.
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I would be upset not nessacarily depressed.
honestly, i think your boyfriend wanted to. but i think he's definently regreting it now. because he wouldn't have unblocked her, AND most importantly, if she was threatening to tell you he cheated why was he so worried of her telling you this? if he knew he had been faithfull, he should have felt content that he could just tell you, shes 'shes lying, she wanted me to show her my penis on my webcam if i didnt.'
somethings up with your boy.
good luck.
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