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What am i waiting for?
Is it weird that i am 13 and i still never had my first kiss or boyfriend ever in my life? i think i'm like the only person in my SCHOOL that never had a boyfriend. i always like all these guys but i never tell them because i am scared and i don't want to get hurt. but i don't want to be like most of my friends that go out with a different guy every week. i've had some many guys ask me out before but i always so no, i don't know why. i even said no to this guy i liked for a very long time. i' just don't want to get hurt. i always wanted my first boyfriend, kiss, date or whatever to be with someone that i will always remember. my best friend doesn't even remmeber her first kiss, and i don't want that to happen to me. i need advice to make me feel better about this.
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There's nothing wrong with YOU. A lot of people think when they don't have a boyfriend, or haven't had their first kiss yet that there is something wrong with them. And sweetie, that is not the case at all. I'm sure you're a wonderful and beautiful girl, inside and out. Sometimes it just takes longer for some people to get their first boyfriend/first kiss. It has nothing to do with you. It's just how everything is planned out.
Lots of people your age haven't had their first boyfriend/first kiss yet, either. Don't think you're the only one, because you aren't. Everyone takes time for something like this to happen. Some get their first boyfriend when they're 12; others when they're 13 and some even only have their first boyfriend when they're 18-30. It just depends on the person and if they're ready or not. It doesn't really matter if you didn't have your first boyfriend, yet. You're only 16, hun. You have tons of time for boyfriends, believe me. But, I promise you in time, you'll find that special guy. You just have to give it some time. For now, enjoy being a teenage girl and having fun with your friends; you only live once.
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It's not weird at all. It's sensible. Okay, so everyone else seems to have a boyfriend and everyone else seems to have had their first kisses and so on. As you have said, a lot of them probably don't even remember their first kisses, or remember it being distinctly unpleasent. Why should you waste your firsts just because they did?
I was exactly the same as you right through school. I had a couple of short term boyfriends but I never kissed them because I knew deep down I didn't really want to. I didn't feel enough for them. Then, when I was 17, I met my boyfriend and I finally hd my first kiss. Three and a half years down the line, I'm still with him, very deeply in love, living with him and you know what? I can remember every single thing about that first kiss. I could tell you where we were, how it happened, what aftershave he was wearing and exactly how I felt. Out of all the people I once knew when I was at school, I am the only one I know who wouldn't change anything about my first kiss. It might have been a long wait but it was worth it.
I suspect it will be the same for you. No matter what you do in life, it is always better to wait until YOU are ready and ignore what everyone else does because they aren't the ones who will have to live with the consequences of your actions. Wait until you find someone you really want to share your first kiss with and no matter where it is, what you look like or what is going on around you, I promise it will be special.
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it's not the first kiss with some guy, it's the first kiss with the right guy that matters. you could have five boyfriends and kiss them all and none of them feels special and then you find the right guy a kiss him and that's the first kiss that matters. and any guy can surprise you and turn out to be the right guy. so don't wait. life is too short to wait.
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well to me it seems like your not ready..only because i read that you say no whenever youre asked. you may think that its opinionated but its the truth becuase i was the same way. and youll realize this when you get boyfriends. so just wait it out.. youl get a boyfriend eventually. but youre going to get hurt regardless of whether you want to or not . but its better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all...
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