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so my boyfriend of 8 1/2 months frequently makes plans with me, and then blows me off without so much as a call. and were really good besides that one thing. and hes said in the past when we fought about it and broke up that he knows he fucked up. but he did it again last weekend. so i confronted him on it and his reply was :
"you get so pissed off when some little thing doesnt go your way you might want to get use to it cuz its gunna happen all your life your the only person i know that doesnt accept it"
im so mad at him i dont even know what to do. were fighting, not talking, and he's avoiding me. i dont wanna lose him. ive liked him for so long. ive loved him the whole tim ei was with him. but he doenst always do the most resposible things. and he hurt my feelings. im not gettin pissed off over nothing, am i? he repeatedly does it. its not me over reacting, its me wantin a common courtsey he knows id give him! i dont know what i should do, or how to handle this. any suggestions
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You know what in my best opinion,
I'd just break up and stay broken up.
He sounds like one of those people, where they think its never their fault. Dont worry about what he says, because if you noticed he wrote "You get so pissed off when some little thing" he said little thing, he didnt specificly say anything, so he probably doesnt have anything to say.
If he does something over and over again that hurts your feelings and he doesnt learn from it. He's not worth waiting for him to learn, because you cant make him see what hes doing wrong you know? He's not worth your time. And you arent being angry over nothing.
I would tell him one last time everything you feel, and how you think its rude how he points of whats wrong with you, (what you put in quotations of there of what he said, mention that to him) and that you cant stand it when he blows plans because its rude.
Good luck hun, if you need anymore help feel free to send it to my inbox!
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I would just message him, call him, talk to him face to face, whatever is going to make you though most comfortable with talking to him about this.
And I would just be like,"Look, I know I messed up, and I'm extremely sorry and I really hope you can forgive me, but you're partially at fault too. I mean, I know you say I get pissed off and everything whenever some little thing might not go my way, but you don't exactly help every now and then. It really hurts me and upsets me whenever we'll make plans together and you'll blow me off without even letting me know. I mean, I might understand more if you just called and let me know, but it just makes me feel unwanted and hurt. So that maybe way you think I'm always getting upset over every little thing not going my way, because if it doesn't go my way, I wind up getting blown off. Now I'm not trying to start a fight or anything, that's the last thing I want to do, I just wanted to let you know my opinions and my feelings on everything, but I really want to talk this out with you, cause we've been dating for so long, and I love you and I love being with you, and I want this to work out." ( or something like that ) and just explain to him all your feelings and let him know you still really care for him and want to work everything and you're not TRYING to arise arguments, which'll show him you really do want to be with him and everything, and that you're handling this in a mature way.
I don't think you're getting pissed over nothing, at all. I would be pissed off too if I were you, especially with such a long relationship as yours. You'd think after all that time he'd want to hang out alot and would have more respect and consideration as to your feelings whenever he decides to suddenly just blow you off.
Just takl to him about it in a calm tone and show him you don't want to fight or anything and you're not trying to be mean, and that you are sorry, but he sound apologize too for his part. And he just needs to try and make more of an effort to hang out with you and everything and be more considerate of your feelings and at least call if he's not able to hang out with you.
I hope I helped.
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