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Theres this girl at my school and shes so FAKE. like everyone knows it but they all like her still. all her friends talk stuff about her but when theyre with her shes the best thing in the world. she steals all these guys from me. she thinks shes the best thing ever. she flirts with anyone that moves. and everyone falls for it, especially the guys. this is how shes fake: she like says things, and then later, denys them. like one night all her friends where mad at her so she asked to come to the hangout with me and my friends. we felt bad for her, so we said okay. there, she told us how we friends where boring and she liked hanging out with us. she also said that our small group should stay that way-small. so next weekend the next thing we know, everyones tlking about going to the hangout, all invited by her. all her friends, and some not even friends. so we said okay, we're still going. so we got there, and her and her friends completley excluded us from theyre group, sitting at a different table, and shutting us out, so we just left. after i told her why we where upset. she just apologized and did it again. so now she took over. theres other times, but thats just one example.
i just want to know how to overcome this, i dont want to fight with her, i just want to know how to deal with it.
please help. thanks alot:)
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Dear Reader,
Sometimes the only way to deal with people like that is to learn from our mistakes and don't make them again. It's frusterating to not have any control in these situations, but you have to remember that you gave her the control when you agreed to let all those people she invited come to something that she was only invited to out of pity. I know that's not what you wanted to hear, but I think you probably already knew that that was going to be your only (mature) option.
That doesn't mean don't stick up for yourself and just let her have her way. You should confront her (in a non-voilent way) and let her know that your really disapointed in her- it sounds cheesey but when you use words like disapointed then you put it on her shoulders and off of yours; let the guilt get her. Even if she acts like it's not bothering her it will. She's obviously a very shallow person and she let's others control how she feels, who knows she may even eventually grow up.
I hope that I helped a little, and didn't sound to "Dr. Phil". *wink*
~Kambrey
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there are girls that are really like that, too fake. the best way to do, for me, is talk to her privately, although this is a common stuff but try. or appoint an open forum with those concerned- the victims of her fakeness (the guys all around, you and you're friends, and even hers). talk about the problem and make sure no one will make a fight. if she refuse to do any of these, don't get annoyed or mad of her instead, if you two pass by each other, smile or greet a single hi to her. it doesn't matter if she will just ignore it. at least, you've done your part...
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