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I AM STARTING TO LIKE HIM AGAIN! are we flirting??!
16, female.
tonight my friend had a little bonfire for her bday! and well this kid ive liked on and off for about 5 months was there. he's actually her neighbor. we've been pretty good friends for awhile and well now he has a a girlfriend of about 4 months. well me and him still flirt KIND OF, not as bad as before he had a girlfriend but then to me its flirting but to him or others it might not be. like me and a couple guys were throwin the football around and me and him (matt) were at one end, in the dark and we were kinda close and when they guys would throw it hard at me on purpose he would like jump in front to try and save me and he would always give me the ball because i wanted to throw it, but he would pass it off to me. but he wouldnt hand it to me he would like kind of hug me from behind and then give the ball to me. and then he was sayin i liked this guy that i madeout with but really i dont! long story..anyways he knew that i was getting angry with him but he knew that i would just punch him or run after him or like hit him in the stomache so he kept doing it and each time he would grab my hand and smile. also when we would sit by the fire he was sitting next to me and i looked at him and then he like took his hand and tapped it on my face/chin :] i dont know if you know what im talking bout! but then he took my purse and was holding it and was looking through it and saw i had my school pictures and he looked at it and then took one <3 everytime i would be standing he would always get close to me and stand like right behind me. he would always like hit the back of my chair when walking behind me and i would look back to see who it was and then he smiled at me. me and him always argue about stupid things and bet on things and then we always end up like hiting each other lightly in the stomache or like getting close. its hard to explain but me and him do this everytime we are together! sometimes i feel like we are going out, and people look at us like. do they like each other?! whats going on! i know he loves his girlfriend to death and never wants to lose her but i dont know whats going on between us, or if its just me overracting to everything! what do you think? im not gonna talk to him otherwise its gonna be wayy to awkward and then like ruin our friendship so do i keep doing what i am doing or whats your advice? im always so happy and smiley when im around him :] everytime i listen to slow songs i think of him, everytime before i go to bed i think of him,its so crazy and to me stupid because i feel like im wasting my time but i just CANT get over him. i love being around him. it just kills me though to know that he loves someone else and is happy with her..
well thank you very much!!
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I wouldn't stop talking to him. If you stopped talking to him, that would probably hurt you even more than you are right not.
It sounds to me like he does like you, but if he loves his girlfriend, I'm not too sure. He just might be thinking that he's being friendly, but others are taking it as flirting and everything. Guys always do this and always send signals out to girls that they really didn't mean to send. Or, he just might like the both of you, and doesn't know who to go for.
I would just keep doing what you're doing so he doesn't suspect anything and just have a good time with him still. Maybe after awhile, more feelings for you'll develop, and he'll realize how much he likes you and want to go out with you, or not. But either way, you still get to hang out with him and everything, right? That's still a great thing. And even if they weren't to break up anytime soon, you guys are young. Most couples wind up breaking up sooner or later, so you never really know what can happen. Over time, the more you flirt and the more he flirts back, I would jsut tell him. I mean, we all only have one life to live, and we're all so afraid to do anything, just take a chance. You never know, he might return the feelings and he could be the greatest boyfriend you'll ever have. And if he doesn't feel the same, you can always go back to being friends. You'll just have to work really hard at keeping your friend steady and making it less awkward and pretend like it never happened.
Just be really careful with how you flirt with him and everything, because you don't want someone going and telling his girlfriend, because that's going to cause alot of unwanted future drama , and her friends and alot of other people might start to view you as trying to steal her man or whatever.
I hope I helped.
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allrighty...a tad long, but you look like you need some help here, bad.
the guy has a girlfriend? i'd distance myself.
well, now i would...i was in a smiliar situation this past year and it nearly killed me.
We'd flirt non-stop, he kept telling me he was gonna break up with his girlfriend, then that he loved her oh-so-much. long story short, we made out, they stayed together, she found out, they broke up, she, and our entire grade HATED me. and i STILL didnt get the guy.
so just be careful...i know you are all happy and smily, but think of when you are at home...you are sad and you miss him. but he is most likely out with his girl. Plus, any guy that is doing all that when he has a girlfriend, shouldnt be in a relationship, and this will sound harsh since it is typed, not said, but why if you two got together wouldnt he do it to you?
think about that for a bit...
and i know you said you dont wanna talk to him, but you need to. you need to clear the air and figure things out, TRUST ME, having it all be clear, makes EVERYTHING much simpler. i promise you.
I hope everything works out, and i can tell you really like this guy, so i hope it goes well. if you need any more help, just message me on here okay?
xoxo
Auntie Em :)
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