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Boyfriend danced with another girl
Okay I'm 15 and been dating my boyfriend for a year now and we were at homecoming and we danced every slow song together because we said we would. He has these two friends who like to hang out with him and his other friend and the two girls are nice, but they flirt with him and one of them just went up to him right in front of me when she heard a slow song come on and grabbed my boyfriend and started dancing with him. So I went over and started talking to some of my friends and tried to act like it didn't bother me cause I didn't want to be mean and say no you cant dance with him. But I wanted to burst out crying. And I told him that I didn't like it when he did that. So do you think that I should just tell him that I don't like it when he hangs around this girl or just ask the girl to stop flirting with him or just let it go on as if nothing is wrong? Thanks!!
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She danced with him, he didn't dance with her. You have no reason to be mad at your boyfriend. Be mad at the girl that thinks he's interested in her at all. What she did was very rude. She didn't give your boyfriend a choice in whether he wanted to dance with her or not. Your boyfriend wasn't going to cause a scene. He did the nice thing and suffered through the few minutes he was forced into spending with her instead of you. Your boyfriend, as you know, is a great catch so of course other girls will be interested in him. That's not his fault. Think of it as a good thing. A reminder that you are with an awesome guy. He could have chosen anyone, but he picked you. He hasn't cheated on you and he isn't showing signs of not liking you or having committment issues. He's not interested in other girls like they are interested in him. You're really lucky. I know that its hard to not let these types of things bother you, but don't take it out on your boyfriend. He's just caught in the middle and if you say anything to him about this he'll think that you are a really jealous person or that you don't trust him at all. Those are two things you don't want him thinking. It could put a huge strain on your relationship. Let your feelings settle and if you want to approach him about it, do it in a week or so when you are calm and be very careful what you say and how you say it. Good luck. :)
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I think you can tell him it bothers you. Don't tell him he can't hang out with his friends no matter how you feel about them. She must not mean to mush to him or he would be dating her.
Even though it is uncomfortable when he dances with his friends, its only a dance. It is nice of him to dance with his female friends, especially if they don't have dates. He is just being a good friend.
Discuss it with him because you don't want to bottle it up and you do want him to know your feelings. Just try to talk about it calmly. Don't put him on the defensive. :)
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I would not tell him that he "can't" do anything, but make it clear that it is disrespectful to you to hang out with a girl that dissed you and continues to ignore the fact that he is taken. Tell the girl that you understand that she is attracted to your guy, but that she needs to find her own guy, because she is making a fool of herself. Don't let on to her that you are hurt or jealous or vulnerable in any way, because she will enjoy that power. I would even laugh at her a little with my friends and boyfriend for her desperation. The last suggestion is a little iffy, but there is a saying: "Keep your friends close, and your enemies closer." If it works for you, you could befriend her, but always you would have to watch your back. This would help you know what she is up to, and possibly take the thrill of going after your guy down a notch. She may have a crush on him, or just be a girl that only wants what she cannot have. Suggest another guy to her. Tell her, "I bet you could never get (whoever) to go out with you." She might just take the bait!
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Tell her straight up..
"I dont care if you guys are friends but you needa stop flirting with MY boyfriend..kay?"
& you should also talk to him about it..tell him it bothers you..
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