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At my new school [as of yesterday] I've been classified as a misfit and hang out with all the people like that. You know, black pants, studded belts, band t-shirts, scene haircuts, eyeliner. yeah you know.
welllll.
for some reason, i've been getting hit on alot by all the preppy and gangster guys that usually think i'm a total freak.
it's kinda weird.
like, they wrap their arms around me and named me "sushi" because they want to eat me out. eww.
they also dog howl at me and stuff. is it because I wore a black mini skirt?
it's just so weirdddd.
is it the way my clothes fit me or something? IDK i've just never been in a situation like that.
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Yes, you can be the target of their lewdness even if you are in a different social group at school. If you are dressing in a sexually revealing way then you are putting a message out that you want attention. If you don't like the kind of attention your clothes are drawing, then fix it by changing your outfits to reflect the message you want people to see. Our clothing and appearance in general communicates something about us and is an unspoken but loud visible sign to others that does have a meaning. We all choose what message we want to send about ourselves. The messages can be: "I am sexy." "I am tough." "I don't care." "I am so cool." "I think I am better than you." "I am a friendly approachable person." "Stay the bleep away from me." "I fit in." "I don't want to fit in." ETC!!! Everyone with vision judges and makes evaluations with the information that they see first and foremost. It takes a lot of getting to know someone to go beyond an appearance. Is your appearance in alignment with what you want it to say about you, or is it an obstacle to the real message. Whatever you choose to wear, it should be a consistently true reflection of the internal you, or you will be misrepresenting yourself. The colors we choose and the designs and the way our clothes fit all reflect our internal feelings about ourselves and the world, so be aware of your appearance and take control of your image.
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Either way, it's sexual harassment... if you're not comfortable with it, see a guidance counsellor or authority figure and see if they can help it to stop.
It could be because you are new... people like to scare fresh meat.
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