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i dont want to move!
i live in Lake Elsinore and i moved out here about 3 years ago from redondo beach. Everythings going perfect out here, i have alot of great freinds, im happy here, the happiest i have been in all my life, and i have so many memories here, like i had said, everythings good excpet that my mom wants to move back to redondo beach cause she found a much better job. But i dont want to move again, its not for the fact that im scared to move cause i wont have any new freind or anything, i have some freinds out there from when i moved the first time, i just dont want to have to leave all my memories and freinds again, im too attatched to the ones i have now. i kind of want to move back cause i miss being in redondo and cause my freinds out there but i more want to stay out here then move. my mom wont listen to me when i tell her that i dont want to move, mabye im talking to her wrong, mabye im not saying the right things to her to make her understand. can some one plz help me with how i should talk to my mom about not moving?
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I hate to say this but unless you are over 18 years of age you mom has total control over the whole moving process. If her mind is made up that she wants to move, there really isn't anything you can do to change it.
I understand it's difficult and you don't want to lose memories and friends and I'm sure she gets that too. But when something better comes along, you have to take it. I'm guessing she's the one who supports you and takes care of the finances, and getting a better job would be good for her to take. And if getting a new job would be realistically better for her she should do it. I know you're happy right now, btu she deserves to be happy as well. And it would allow you to start off new.
Once you understand her points of view, you could try to talk to her again. This time if you're going to talk with her you need to be mature about it. Maturity is key in talking. I always say that in my answers dealing with communication. Many people don't do it correctly and then their parents get pissed. Anyways, make sure this isn't all about you. Ex: "But I am happy here, I don't want to move, This is the happiest I've been in my life". You'll ntoiced that these all have "I" in them. Try to limit words such as "I, me, my" because that just sounds like all you care about is yourself. You know what I mean? Instead try to say something like " Being in _____ has been so wonderful, it would be hard to change all of that so quickly".
-Shannon
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