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Me and my MAN
ok me and my boyfriend have hung out everyday almost every hour of the day for about...8 months..ok yea i know my friends are wanting to kill me..but see i dont really not want to hang out with my boyfriend. They bitch at me ALL the time..but i have so much fun when im with HIM. And it kinda sucks though cuz he's 2 years older so when i'm with my friends they kinda leave me out of everything..I mean..i know i should hang out with my friends more..and i know the whole chicks before dicks..but..theres jusr somethin about this guy and whenever im with him im like amazingly happy...What should i say to my friends to make them understand?...I mean when i hang out with my friends its when he has work or something and they like get offended and i dont understand why?? i try to explain..but..they just dont get it..HELP!
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They won't get it until they have boyfriends. However, you have to see it from their perspective. There will come a time when some of your friends are hooked up, and you won't be. It also does not hurt your boyfriend to know that you have a life without him and that sometimes you will have plans of your own or with friends and he will have to miss you. A little time spent with friends when you could be with your guy will let them know that they are important to you and not just a convenience.
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Who's more important? A boyfriend that you will probably not end up marrying or friends that you can have for life to be there for you and you to be there for them?
Right now from what I've read, it seems like you're ditching your friends and ignoring them for this ONE guy. You need to rethink about what you're doing and put yourself in your friend's perspective. Would you like it if your best friend ignored you and only hung onto her boyfriend?
And I understand why your friends would get offended. It may seem like to them that you're ONLY hanging out with them because your boyfriend is unavailiable so you have no other choice but to hang out with them.
Instead of explaining and coming up with excuses, I suggest that you apologize to your friends and have a big sleepover or something like that. Even if that's a little too childish for you guys. Start paying a little bit more attention to what's going on outside of your relationship with your boyfriend. CUT DOWN on the time you spend with your BOYFRIEND. You're really hurting your friendship and there is a big chance that you and your boyfriend won't last more than 4 years...and by then you will have no one to talk to or such because you completly shut out your friends
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eh..you need to make better friends who treat you a lot better. if they are cool that your boyfriend is like your best friend.. then maybe make plans with them too?
i did this too.. my friends treated me badly. i made some new ones that understood that my boyfriend was like my best friend.. so i hung out with him a lot more.
i think you need at least one chick best friend though. someone you can also tell things to.. so if something goes between you and your boyfriend.. you can have someone there for you.
sadly i did not do that.. and i was a big mess for a long time.
or i guess you could just forget about them. but if you are constantly with your boyfriend.. maybe they want to spend some time with you too?
it's all up to you.. to drop those friends or make some new ones.
but its not all that fair to give all your attention to your boyfriend..even though he's probably easier to talk to and more fun to be around with..
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