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Winning him back
Okay...very complicated situation, very simple question. How do you win a guy back over?
We broke up, but we didn't really break up. We still hug and kiss and shit, but I feel as though he's trying to convince himself he doesn't love me anymore because what he felt for me freaked him out, or something.
However, I want him to miss me so I thought maybe I'd just leave him alone for awhile and be a little bitchy to him and see what he does.
But then I wonder if he's trying to drive me away, and if I did that he'd still get his way.
I'm tired of playing his games. I need to be stronger and like, not avoid him but not give into him. Like I'll wanna do something and he'll alter the plans or something and I'll just go along with it, and I think I need to stop.
Giving him the cold shoulder would work if he isn't trying to drive me away...but at this point I feel like I have nothing left to lose.
He turned into a nasty, controlling douchebag like all of a sudden and I want the sweet romantic guy I fell in love with back...=(
Any thoughts?
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Maybe you are just finding out who he really is. It is easy to appear as wonderful for a short time, but eventually we see everyone for who they are. It may also be that he thinks you are playing games. Remember, the female is higher up on the social intelligence ladder, and the male cannot understand his own thoughts and feelings, let alone ours! Don't let it get so complicated. He is simple, so treat him that way. Be nice and he will be nice back. Play games, and he will get so confused trying to compete, that he won't remember why he was with you to begin with. Men like to win and they are highly competitive..mixed with the fragile male ego, they are easy to screw with, basically. Give him room to get his dignity back and then just be nice.
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Just keep on beong bitchy.Dont give him the cold shoulder though and ignore him.Kind of watch him from afar and pretend to just run into him every once in awhile.People I did that to started to get all emo and depressed intill I stopped being bitchy and started to be really nice.He got all happy and actually asked me out and was with me always.So just get a attitude with him.=)
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you can't change a guy, if he's someone you aren't attracted to anymore, more than likely thats who he is going to be if you guys get back together.
you can't really win a guy back over either. there is no right or wrong why to win a guys heart. its just something that sorta happens.
you have to give things time, i know its hard, but everything will eventually work itself out. just try not to stress & try not to make it obvious that you miss him. do some fun things, let him know that he is not your number one priority.
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