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being ignored, not talking to..
okay well you see, me and my boyfriend have been on and off for about a year and a half now. but the thing is, yes we go to the same school even though we're in different grades but we get 10 minute break and lunch together, plus he has to walk by my locker to get to some of his classes. and he hasn't talked to me in about a week and a half now. he just walks right by me and pretends he doesn't see me. then when our two grades have an assembly or something, and we have to sit on different sides of the room, he'll be looking at me throughout the whole thing with sad face on. after about a week of not talking, i finally got fed up and called him ( which suprised me, and prolly him, too becuase he knows how nervous i get to be the first to call or something) so. i told him that I IIIIIIIIIIII was sorry for not talking to him lately, when really it was both of us and he said it was fine and not to worry about it. and he said he loved me when we were about to hang up so i dont know. this has never happpened before so i dont know what to do. i get really nervous if i try to go up and talk to him. he wasn't in school today so idk. i wanna talk to him , but i want HIM to come to ME ( or my locker... when i'm there, or lunch or SOMETHING...ANYTHING) and just talk to me.oh, and this weekend, (friday satruday and sunday) theres a fair coming up so hopefully he's going and then like in like three weeks theres a halloween dance at our school and i really hope we're talking by then :( please, give me some advice on what i should do. you can also IM me on my screen name for myspace, xanga, and advicenators. it is....
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okay, this is definietly a problem. if you have no communication in a relationship, you really don't have anything. the same thing happened to me and my boyfriend, and we are now broken up. he said he needed time to "think about where our relationship was going". i gave him time, and during that time, he completely ignored me. we had been dating for almost four months, and it was over summer, so we really had something between us. you two, on the other hand, have been on and off for about a year and a half. i know you probably do love each other, but maybe you should see other people for a bit and see if you really do mean something to each other? i'm not saying you should completely break up, i'm just saying it needs time. maybe he just needs some space. who knows what he's thinking? but either way, he probably won't come to you, or at least not until he has something to say to you. so just let him figure out what's going on, and if you two really are that close, you should be able to ask him what's going on. in the end, my ex-boyfriend and i are still good friends and are going to homecoming together. we know we still love each other, we just need time to see other people. but we will most likely start dating again. so my advice is that maybe you should try doing that too? but instead of dating off and on, take a while's break, then go back to him when you know you're ready for a committed relationship for the both of you.
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Hey. Well, first of all, I think you need to ask him if there's something going on in your relationship that you don't know about. He could be having thoughts of breaking up and trying to ease away from you so its not harder on him. OR since he said I love you, he could have really meant it and be scared. A lot of guys have issues with coming to terms with this feeling, he could be sorting this out for himself. I think that you should, not necessarily call him if you feel uncomfortable, but just grab him in the hall if you see him and ask him to hang out one on one so you can discuss what's been going on. If not, when you get time, just let him know you've been worried about everything and miss talking with him. After all, if you guys have been together this long, you have to have some kind of inkling to what the other is thinking. Good luck, I hope I helped. Also, I imed you so if you need anymore help, feel free to im me back.
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What your learning is that there are different ways to communicate. Being the first to call or going up to him in school is not a sign of weakness, just that your over that childish who-speaks-to-whom-first nonsense. My advice? suck it up, and march up to him when you want to talk to him. He won't bite.
Good luck
peggy
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