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Does It Really Even Matter?
Even though some relationships bring about the most incredible happiness, does that even matter when the same relationship is dragging you down? As in, the person who brings about the only true happiness in someone's life also brings about the lowest feelings when things are wrong. Is that just love, or a really emotionally charged relationship? If it's love, how do you know when to press and when to walk away? The old saying, "If you love someone, then let them go" has always inspired great confusion within me. If you love someone, why would you ever let them go? Why not just fight with all of the heart you have already given that person to be with them? How do you know when to rely on that old cliche as the best advice?
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In short, relationships and love are always suppose to bring out your best attributes and should lift you up, not drag you down. During the course of a relationship, it's okay to fight or have arguments. That's actually healthy, BUT you should NEVEr have to describe your feelings as "low". That damaging to the relationship, your self esteem, and even more so, your self dignity. Sometimes it seems like that special someone brings out our best feelings even though they also bring out the bad ones because we WANT so badly for that to be true. Often times it is you yourself that is creating this "Cloud 9" feeling. It's not your fault though. When you want something for so long and so badly, you start to believe what you want rather than the truth. Only you personally know when your heart's in love, but I would highly agree with the statement that this is a really emotionally charged relationship. Here's something to keep in mind: With love and relationships, you tolerate ONLY as much as your heart/head can take. You know when you are pushed too far. It's okay to take risks, but not at the expense of your self worth. To me personally, I think that cliche line "If you love someone, let them go is not really meaning they'll come back, but more so like if you know that there is someone better for them and y'alls relationship is holding that person back, then let them go. Sometimes they do come back even when it is an unhealthy relationship because they are just so use to that chaos. Fighting with all your heart i a great thing to do for things you are passionate about, but first, you and that person have to be on the same page, or it's chalked up as a lost casuse. Cliche are generic, never specific. Listen to your heart, but also you HEAD. And lastly, remember, it's okay to take risks. It's a part of life. And when something ends, ALWAYS take it as a learning experience. Allow yourself to grow and learn from the past and carry that with you in your future endeveors. :)
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