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ok so my friend just started dating this really nice boy and they are soo cute together and her boyfriend has a friend who is into.. and they are all trying to get me to go out with him but i do not want to... don't get me wrong i like him in all but i am just not one of those girls that should have a boyfriend. and i have tried to tell them to stop trying to set me up with him cause all i want to be is friends.. please help thanks
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You just need to sit down with them and let them know: you're not interested in him like that, and they can't keep trying to pressure you into it. Try and (practice or not whichever) with a more assertive voice, to show you're serious.
Just let them know you think he's cool and everything, but you just want to be friends with him, and they can't MAKE you like him like that or date him. They need to respect your decision ; that's what being a friend is about, understanding and respecting eachother. And just let them know you don't even really WANT to date anybody right now, you like kicking back and realxing and being single.
And maybe even talk to him about the situation. I don't know if he likes you or not, but if he does, let him know that you only like him as a friend, cause maybe that's why your friends are being so assertive about it because maybe he mentioned something about liking you and they think they're doing him a favor. But if he doesn't, I'm sure he'll understand, and maybe even ask him to ask your friends to back off to, because since he doesn't like you like that he can explain that to them and ask them to please stop asking you to date him.
I hope I helped.
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Well, you really have done your part as far as voicing your thoughts and opinions. Really, I guess you could try one more time explaining to them that there's nothing wrong with the guy and you appreciate their efforts, however you don't want a boyfriend and certainly don't want to hurt this guy. Maybe suggest that you wouldn't mind hanging out in a group. Don't agree to like a double date type thing, because then that can send the wrong signal. If you do end up hanging out with the guy, drop little hints about how you aren't interested in ANYONE (not just him) and really want to be single. To do this, emphasize school work, hectic schedule, etc. :)
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