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Should I tell them?
15/f
I have a bit of a problem, I think my parents are slowly catching on that I drink alcohol every so often at friend's houses. Well, usually twice a month. I get straight A's, play sports and get along very well with my parents. However, I lie to my parents a lot about where I am and what I am doing.
My parents have become suspicious and search my room every chance they get. Today my mom found a blanket which I carried around with me (it had grass on it) and socks (which I was wearing when I took off my shoes) and she is wondering why I had those items hidden in my room. I blew it off and said the socks were from PE class but I do not like all of this lying. I have lied to them for years, keeping almost a secret life.
I do not know if I should tell them what I do or not.. I want them to trust me but they may try to restrain me from seeing my friends or make me do extra chores (etc) and punish me.
Why should I (or should I not) tell them? I am really stuck with this. Thanks!
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Your parents are understandably concerned about you, apart from loving you, it's their job to worry about your well being. Parents have a radar for picking up that there is something wrong and drinking alcohol at your age is one of those things.
Your only options are either to carry on as you are and risk the inevitability of them finding out, (which they will), and the subsequent fallout, or stop drinking and lying.
You know the answer, you're an intelligent girl. Do you feel that you deserve a punishment for your behaviour?
You have to earn trust, and when you betray it, it is a very long time before you can get it back, if ever.
Your parents are more than likely thinking all sorts of terrible possibilities for your actions, so if you were to come clean and make the effort to stop the drinking, you could find that they will support you. Only you can decide how they would respond.
Even if you don't tell them, please stop drinking? At your age it does more long term damage, even if it is only a couple of times a month. Try to be more open with them, they sound very worried. Once you start, it should get easier.
I'm sorry if it's not the answer you were looking for, but you do need to do something about this now. The longer it goes on, the harder it will be to deal with.
Good luck.
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