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Complications
This is kind of long and is probably similar to the who knows how many love life questions out there, but i would really like advice.
One of my guy friends just told me that he liked me in the 'more than just friends' way.. apparently he realized that... two days ago? I mean it's great and all since I like him too. But first off, he's two years younger than me so i wonder if that might cause complications since i'm graduating this year [i'm a senior]. He doesn't act like he realizes im older than him. I really like him, even before he told me that he liked me, but i dont know if this will work out or not.. so i guess i'm looking for reassurance that relationships between younger guys and older girls can work out and/or advice about it.
Secondly, our homecoming/coronation dance is coming up in a few weeks.. but he's going with this girl who he used to like and who now really likes him back, because she somewhat pressured him into going. He told me that if 'all this crap hadn't happened', he would have asked me. I dont think it's too late for him to tell her that he doesnt want to go, but he doesnt want to get her upset or whatever because she's really impulsive and could do something stupid (aka cut herself etc). We both really wanted to go to the dance together, but he obviously doesnt want to do anything about the situation and instead of keeps saying how he wishes he hadnt agreed to go with her in the first place. what am i suppose to do about that?
Another thing is that all his friends are expecting them to go together and end up dating. My friend, whos also his friend, only knows half of the story (that he doesnt like theh girl anymore) but she doesnt know that he likes me now so she's trying to 'smooth things over' for them and get him and the other girl together. We both agreed not to tell her because it would just complicate things even more, but i dont know what to do.. I didnt tell him whether or not i liked him yet, because he told me he liked me online and we decided it'd be better if we talked in person first, but what should i do? This just seems like it'll turn out to be a troublesome relationship. I really need advice so please help ):
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Age difference is not that crucial when it is just two years, except when one person is an adult and one a minor, according to the law. Anything worth having is worth waiting for, so I would suggest keeping the relationship casual and no sexual involvement at least until he is eighteen. By that time you will most likely be interested in older guys, anyway. For now, stick to the agreement and don't get all insecure over the dance. If he wants to keep a promise and not hurt her, then that is actually something you should respect. When you start dating, you can explore what you have in common and what you don't. Don't worry about it beforehand, it is a waste of time. It is not healthy to decide before you even get involved with someone whether or not to have a long term relationship. It is not something you can control. The relationship either grows or fades...or even collapses. Concentrate on the moment, because that is the only real moment you have.
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If you go into the relationship looking for trouble, that's what you're going to find.
If his age doesn't bother you in your friendship, it probably won't cause a problem in your relationship. Your friends might make comments, but they'll shut up after awhile.
I don't think you should worry about his brother's actions. They're not the same person, and chances are he saw how it's screwed up his brothers life
and won't take the same path.
This is going to sound kind of condescending, but high school time passes quickly, by Christmas everyone will be like "he went to homecoming with who?" He does sound like a nice guy if he's worried about upsetting this girl by breaking his promise.
These are all things you should discuss with him, he's probably worried about whether or not you can be friends afterwards.
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my mom's 4 years older than my dad and their perfectly fine. don't let age stop you. if you really love him then go for it.
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