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Monkey See Monkey Do
Female: 14.
Adam and I have been going out for over a month. Things are going great except for one thing, when I do something cute he CONSTANTLY does it back.
For example:
I covered his eyes to surprise him yesterday.
He's done it to me randomly almost 6 times today.
I kissed him on the cheek when saying goodbye once, now he ALWAYS kisses my cheek. Its weird and ackward.
He copies more then that, how do I politley tell him to stop? Thanks!
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Tell Adam that you're tired of "dating yourself." Tell him to grow some balls and be original.
Then go get some coffee. (It solves everything)
(He's doing it because you did it to him and he thinks that's what you want. It's probably completely harmless. Bring it up casually one day "You always copy me! Hahaha" and see what he says. If he says "You always copy me! Hahaha." RUN AWAY!!!!
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You have all the power my dear! People copy for two reasons: They want to do what they think is acceptable to you and they really want to please you. Or, they did not study for the math test. He is unsure about what you like, so he figures he should do the obvious, and women everywhere wish their boyfriends and husbands were so perceptive and attentive!!! You could get this guy to do anything you wanted, so maybe you should rethink not liking this? Or, just tell him up front that you like doing certain things, but you would really like him to change it up now and then and suprise you. I think he is really sweet, though.
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Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery.
Regardless that can be annoying, I'm guessing he does it because you first do it so he figures you are comfortable with it. One way to nip it in the bud is to...for instance, if he goes in to kiss your cheek, turn away or make a joke about it. If he covers your eyes, tease him and say you are going to bite him next time he does it. I don't know if there is any real way to confront him without the conversation ending up awkward, but if you do talk to him about it, just be straight forward.
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He probably thinks that just because you're doing it to him then you want him to do it to you a lot.
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