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I don't want to wait any longer
About 8 or 9 months ago, I revealed to a boy that I really like him...he said he didn't want to do anything to put our friendship at risk, so we didn't start a relationship...however, we eventually became intimate with eachother from time to time, (not the kind where I would lose my virginity, but still pretty intimate) so it's sort of evolved into a "friendship with bennefits" thing...I am still very much in love with this boy, and the more time I spend with him (intimate or not) I grow to love him even more. I'm not sure exactly how he feels about me, but I desperately want to move forward with him. I'm not sure what to do...
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I can understand why you are concerned but to be honest here, what difference would there be about the relationship you have now and what you could have if you were dating properly? From what I can see, the only difference would be that you admit how you feel about each other and it could strengthen the bond between you.
I guess the way I see it, if the current state of things hasn't ruined your relationship, then it's very unlikely that having a real relationship would.
You need to talk to him and explain how you feel. You also need to tell him that if he doesn't feel the same way then you can't keep being intimate with him because it's preventing you from moving on. I would also be very suspicious if he says at this stage he doesn't want to have a relationship with you because how can he be happy being intimate with you, knowing how you feel about him but be happy not meeting your other, emotional needs?
See what he says. He can't keep one boat on the ship and one on the shore. Tell him that you really care about him but you need to know once and for all how he feels about you. Then decide what you want to do from there.
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talk to him
tell him what your telling all of us
sit him down and say
how the friends with benefits
is just making you more in love with him
and that maybe it can evolve into a relationship
believe it or not my ex. and i are really
close friends even tho we were together
everyone needs a little risk their lives
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ask him how would this risk our friendship? make it clear that you really love him. tell him it would never ruin your friendship! you can still do things together while being an item, and if you break up you can still be friends, at least until after you've cooled down.
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maybe try asking him if he wants to start having a more personal-ish relationship than friendship. i mean, there's nothing wrong with friendship, but if he feels the same way about yu, then yu can work a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship no matter what consequences.
feel free to talk ask me whatever yu want.
good luck!
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