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Is this cheating
I have been going out with this guy for almost eight years now. Although it is a long distance relationship it works for me u know. But i have a problem. I just cannot stop fooling aroun with other guys. i just want to stop but i can't. I love this guy and i do not wnat to lose what i have with him. We actually talk about getting marred someday. So nownthe peoblem is should i tell him about the other three guys that i have been with. It does not get serious. We just kiss and cuddle and that is as far as we go. But it is tearing me apart. I want our relationship to be as loyal as it should be. So should i tell him or not. And want an honest opinion even if it is not what i expect. I want to stop and i feel like i can only do so when i get help. The guys that i actually make with i do not even like them. It just that sometimes i want to be touched and looked in the eyes and appreciated. Please help me
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Well, lets start with the two central questions 1. is it cheating? and 2. should you tell him?
The answer to both is "yes". You are being dishonest with a guy that you hope to build a lasting relationship with. I dont see a lot of future in it if you have dishonesty at this early stage.
Now, if you cant stop, make sure you do get some help. What you are doing isnt healthy, and this need for attention has to be rooted in something else. I dont want to start playing shrink, so I will leave it at that, but make sure you talk to someone.
I hope you sort this all out. If you get to the bottom of your problem, hopefully your boyfriend will understand. They say the first step is admitting one has a problem. You have done that, and thats very good. The next step is starting to deal with it.
Good luck.
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