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i have ab oyfriend but like someone closer.
Theres this guy named phil i have been dating all summer. he lives like 1 hour away. i love him, i really do. we go together perfectly. he treats me like an angel and hes everything i have wanted in a guy... well almost everything. hes kinda sarcastic and acts like hes right a lot of the time and hangs out with the wrong ppl and is kinda sexual. but then i went back to school and theres this guy named andrew thats in drama club and chorus with me and hes wickedd cutee and funny and talks to me most of the time and knows how to make me happy. he lives closer and he makes my days better just by smiling. i love phil to death but the distance and i cant deal with not seeing him cause it makes me wonder whats hes doing.. and im afraid me and phil are gonna fall apart. any suggestions?
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Well, first of all, I'm not trying to be mean here or anything, but if you really truely loved Phil then you wouldn't want to date anybody else but him or like anybody else. I mean, I'm not saying you DON'T love him, but I'm not so sure if you 100% love him if you're liking other guys. Even though you do love him, if you're having feelings for another guy, you need to break up with Phil, it's not fair to him.
And Andrew sounds like a lot better guy to be dating. I mean, I obviously don't know these guys, but from the way you described Phil him always wanting to be right and being sexual is not healthy in a relationship if he's always telling you you're wrong, and later he might be trying to get you to do things with him you don't want to do.
So go for Andrew, and just explain to Phil that the long-distance is too much and you just wonder what he does whenever you're not there and it's just not working out, and you're sorry.
I hope I helped.
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Well, I've never had a boyfriend before, so maybe I don't know what I'm talking about.. but if I were you, I'd break it off with Phil. Two reasons:
1. It would be unfair to Phil to date him while you secretly like Andrew.
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2. Now I don't know these guys personally, but judging by what you've typed, Andew really does sound a LOT nicer. "Hanging out with the wrong people" hardly sounds like a quality I'd want in a boyfriend, and if by "kinda sexual" you mean he's pressuring you to do things you're not comfortable with, then Phil doesn't sound very nice at all!
But a cute, funny guy in drama club and chorus who knows how to make you smile? Sounds like a great catch to me :)
Again, I don't know these guys personally so I could be completely wrong. As corny/cliche as this sounds, just do what your heart tells you. But make sure you're completely over the other one before you make a move- gotta be fair!
Hope this helps,
Bubblyfish
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