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i cheated on the one i love
i have this saying. never leave the one you love for the one you like cause the one you like may leave you for the one they love. i fucked up. i love my bf. well ex. lets call him george. i went to a party. and i got drunk adn there was this guy that all the girls want. well he likes me. there was a couple other guys that want me adn they were all over me and i told them i had a bf, i told them this guy, call him mike, was my bf. so they would leave me alone. they did. adn mike went with it knowing it meant notta. well my bf i guess heard i was all over mike when really all i did was hold his hand to make it more convinsing. well my bf broke up with me and i ended up going somewhere i couldnt talk to him till monday. and i did but he said he was done with me. but he let me call him. we talked but all he said was i dont know what to do. you hurt me. well i did kiss mike once and said i couldnt do that. so george found that out too. i was going to tell him but he doenst think i was. i promised him if he gave me one more chance i wouldnt screw up again adn hurt him. i mean that. with all my heart. he might go to jail cause he wont pass his pee test on the 20. but i would wait. i love him. can someone please give me some advice adn guys waht would you do. would you beleive that i wouldnt hurt you. i need help. im suicidal adn have gotten help on it but i feel thats the best way without him. please help.
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i think that honestly, this is a problem that you faced, and you made, and the only way to get rid of it would be to let your ex have what he wants- which is obviously not to be with you. first off, why wuld you go to a party where theres drinknig without ur bf? you should have known that u were bound for trouble. then, why would you even lie like that just to get some other people to leave you alone? thats crazy, and it shames your bf alot. then, you 'held hands with him to make it look more convincing?' thats got to be the lamest excuse ive evr heard. obviously, you were proud of this becuase you stated that 'all the other girls like him, and he likes me'- well, if you had a boyfriend, why wuld any of that even matter to you? all ive got to say is that i hope you enjoyed it.
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Hey there, I got your feedback and I'd be glad to help you the best I can.
I'm not sure what it is your boyfriend would do in order for him to take you back, but if you already havn't, explain to him every detail of what happened the night you were drunk.
Explain to him that guys were coming onto you, so you had to use a friend of yours as a fake boyfriend to keep them off of you. And the only thing that happened was you held his hand to make it look realistic.
Now, the mistake on your part was him having to find out from someone else. Why didn't you come forward the next time you saw him? He would have felt much better hearing all of that from you and not someone else because then how does he know there was more that happened and he might not hear it from anyone?
So what you should have done so far is tell the truth and truly apologize to him for messing up.
And lets talk about the issue of him maybe going to jail. Listen, I know you think that waiting would be a true love thing to do, but it isn't. I think you really need to take some time for yourself and seriously get help on your self-esteem. This may hurt you or offend you and I am definetly not trying to at all, but you really don't like yourself and that's whats really the issue. Low self-esteem is the root to just about everyone of your problems.
Let me give you my very most honest opinion: You shouldn't have a boyfriend right now. Especially this guy. You're at a point in life where you're having suicidal problems and you hate yourself. That's no way to live. If you are still having an issue with it, get help first. It's not normal to be this hard on yourself with guys and dating and being without him. If you think you'll harm yourself, then you shouldn't be with someone. I know you probably won't take my advice, but I hope you take my word for it that you're not ready for these things until you start loving yourself.
-TheTeenGirl
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