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New step dad.
hi, im josh, a 14 year old from the UK. my dad left when i was about 6 and i carn't really remember that much about him. about 6 months ago my mom started dateing this guy called barry. he's a jerk but she really, really likes him - if he says jump, she says how hi!! last month he moved in and since then has beeb trying to be 'dad' - setting the rules and telling me what i can and carn't do. last night was the final straw! i was doing my homework in my room with some music on, like i always do, my mom had gone out but barry and my sister where down stairs. Barry came upstairs he came into my room and told me i cudn't consontrate with that music playing and to turn it off and do my homework downstairs so he could make sure i was doing it properly. I told him i always did it on my own in my room and most of the time with some music on and that mom thort it was fine i did it that way. he started to yell about how i had no manners and its a good job he was hear to teach me some. he told me to take off my pants and my boxes and lay face down on my bed because i was going to get a spanking. it didn't happen because mom came in not long after but he told my mam next time he will spank because thats what i need. what should i do !!??
thanks x
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Hey Josh
First of all, you are not alone, many teenagers have gone through this situation. That does NOT make it right and Barry should not have even suggested that you got 'spanked'. That is harassment and he has no right to tell you ESPECIALLY to take off your pants/boxers. Your Mom cares a lot about you and you should tell her right away about what happened and tell her that it bothers you and isn't right.
About the homework thing, maybe Barry wanted to be a father to you, since he cares about you, and wanted to be involved with your schooling or wanted to help you with it. He probably is feeling like he doesn't have 'power' or authority over you, so when you said your mom allowed it, he got mad. No matter how much you don't like that, maybe try asking him for help sometime but make sure your mom tells him that you can do your homework in your room with music on.
After you tell your mom things will either get better or stay the same. If your mom cannot fix the problem you should talk to an adult that you trust (an aunt? uncle? grandparents? teacher? counsellor? neighbour?) and they will be able to help you. You should NOT be treated like that. If you need any more help with this at all leave another question and I will help you right away with more suggestions. Good luck! :)
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