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break up letter
hows this for a break up letter??
Hey Tyler,
Okay, this is really hard for me but like I like you and stuff but I just feel we should just be friends. There are a few reasons; my parents just randomly decided I can't go out with anyone. It also kind of changed how we acted around each other and it was awkward (for me at least). And I hate awkwardness; and to me, you were being a little too clingy but that's not a bad thing to all people...it’s just something that's just not my type. But that is just my opinion, and it might just be different for me because past boyfriends I have had didn’t really hang around me that much because they weren’t in the same classes as me. I also feel like I don’t really know you well enough to go out with you, you know? I really don't mean to be mean but really, I just see you more as a friend and we had a lot more fun then too. I don’t know if this meant anything either but I saw you hugging another girl in the hall but again, I don’t know if you guys were just friends or what. I know these might just sound like lame excuses but I just really don’t want a boyfriend right now so it isn’t really you as much as it is me. I’m sorry. I hope we can just be friends?
~~Jenna
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Honestly throw the letter away. It just sounds like a ton of raw excuses. I used the one with "my parents randomly told me i cant be with you". Yea it sounds good but no parents would really say that unless they had a really strong reason to back it up and i dont see any reason for them to say that from your letter. If you lie to tyler about why you want to break up with him then trust me he'll find out and bitch at you till the end of freakn who knows what.
Just tell him that you don't really want or need a boyfriend right now. But you would really like to keep him as a friend.
Hope this helps.
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Honestly that sounds a little mean.
I mean if your planning on breaking up with him over email or instant message or whatever then dont make the letter mean.
I think you should forget this letter and just sit down with him and say it straight out.
If you say stuff like 'my parents randomly said i cant go out with anyone' or 'your being to clingy' etc. then it might sound like your making excuses.
But if you really dont want to say it in person then do it on the phone but just stay away from email, myspace, or IM.
EDIT- Im sorry you had to rate me a 3 but I think its cause I said what you didnt wanna hear. Dont take anything I wrote personally, I was just trying to help you out.
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Honey, as hard as breaking up is, you would be better off like, memorizing this and saying it to his face.
Breaking up over IM, e-mail, or letter is really not classy.
However, if you have a real reason for sending him a letter, like your parents won't let you see him to give it to him, or he's somewhere far away, then by all means, use the letter.
Otherwise, seriously...have the nerve to say "it's over" to his face.
Also, in reference to the actual letter, you use "to me" a lot, and you used two classic cliches - "it's not you, it's me" and "let's just be friends." Both are understandable, but he's not gonna believe that it's you and not him. No one would, and no one wants to hear that.
If the reason for breaking up is that you really just don't want a boyfriend, as you say, leave out all the crap about your "parents just randomly decid[ing] that [you] can't go out with anyone", and about how he was being clingy.
Just be straight up with him, and say something like "Tyler, this isn't working for me. I just really don't want a boyfriend right now." If you must, add "it's nothing you did or said, and nothing against you. I hope we can still be friends."
Short, sweet, and to the point. If he asks questions like "why?" answer him honestly, as hard as it might be.
I can guarantee he doesn't want to hear all those excuses in that letter up there. Be straight up, tell him the real reason for the breakup. The longer the letter or conversation is, the more painful it'll be for him. Think about that.
Good luck
-Siren =)
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