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I dont want to lose my guy friends
I'm a 17 year old tomboy and since hs started me and my guy friends are slowly drifting. most of my guys friends all hang out together. before we party , hang out, play football,and complain about and ditch significant others for monday night football, together. now they still do it together, but i'm getting less and less invites. alot of times its because its harder to explain to parents since when they see me all they see is a girl and they don't understand that i would never everhook up with one of my guy friends. i know alot of girls consider themselves one of the guys, but as soon as one shows interest the two couples up and hook up. i'm not at all like that, they don't find me a bit attractive nor vice versa cause it would just be weird. i've watched porn with them, seem them hook up with girls, played their 'wing man', given them gf advice, i even use to play football with them (until it got way too painful after sophmore year hahaha tackling 300lbs guys in mud somehow loses it's appeal). recently a close bud of mine had a serious conversation with me, he basically sat me down and told me we weren't going to hang out much anymore because 'we respect you' and we only hang out with girls we have shots at scoring with. i hate it so much! i feel like i'm stuck in between, i'm too weird for girls and i'm still a girl so i can't hang with the boys. lately i've been hanging out with alot of older guys or guys not from my area so i could act like a ditzy girl, it seems to be the only way i can hang out with anyone and have fun. am i forevern doomed to be a hidden party girl?
at school i always feel really weird wearing skirts and girly/mainstream clothing, but i really want to get some new friends since i dont want to be left out completly in the cold when my guy friends feel like kciking me to the curb.
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That's like me. I'm a tomboy too. Yet my mom thinks I'm gonna turn les or something (she's a homophobe X?)
From what I know, my guy friends like me at one time or another and I turn them down because I don't want to ruin the friendship.
Your guy friends love to be friends with you because you're bold, confident, yourself, etc around them and they want to go out with you (maybe) but you just want to stay friends. Maybe that's bothering them since they want to be more than friends...OR maybe the girls that they're going out with feel intiminated by you and that makes your guy friends uncomfortable as well as they're girlfriends since you're such good friends with them.
And at school, the normal average girls are obsessed with make up, short skirts,hair styles, cosmetic stuff and such. I don't apply to that and I only have one girl friend who is athletic =P Just make friends with the girls who are athletic who isn't so obsessed with cosmetics. Basketball, softball, etc. And tell your guy friend who had the serious convo with you what you just told me. Tell them that it's easier for you to be friend with you guys and that you don't want to ruin the friendships that you have by getting kicked out or going out with them. Tell them that you don't want to be alone when you get kicked out because you don't really click with the girls.
Just tell them what you feel and don't hold back. Also, you sound like you have a great personality so don't change for these other artifical girls =D
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