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To stay or not to stay?
OK so flat out- heres the facts-
- my boyfriend and i have been dating for a little over a year
- hes cheated on me before (finger) a girl at a party when drunk
- he tells me he loves me
- he says he wants to marry me
im not sure if i want to be with him for THE REST OF MY LIFE THOUGH.. i told him that eventually im probably going to want to see other people just so I can know that he is the right person for me.. he flipped out and got all upset. is this wrong of me ? im only 16!!
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Ok so...girl, I've been there too, a bf who says all those things when you're both still teens. It's not wrong of you to thin that you'll want to see other people to find out for sure if he's right for you, that's what dating IS.
He can be as upset and freak as much as he wants to but if you want to see other people, then he's going to have to find a way to deal with it if you break up with him. That may sound harsh, but my ex is STILL not over our breakup that happened about 4 months ago.
From experience, my guess is that your bf may be rather insecure with himself and is afraid that no other girls will want to date him if you leave and that's why he doesn't like the idea of you thinking that seeing other people would be good.
My advice is to get out when you feel the time is right. I'm guessing that you don't want to hurt the guy but the truth is that no matter what, he's going to be hurt if you dump him. Just make sure that you're sure of what you want to do before you do it.
Good luck
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Girlfriend, you should dump him right away. And lets just be that.
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Let him go, you are only sixteen. You really do have the rest of your life ahead of you to date and meet other people. Lets say for example, you would get married at 26, which isn't that young or too old...doesn't that leave you with 10 years of meeting guys and such?
Just because a guy says he loves you that doesn't mean anything. There is a difference between saying it and meaning it. If it's been a year then ask yourself: was it really worth it, all that you've been through? Look ahead and if you see those things happening again, then really reconsider the relationship. Talk things out with him. Don't be afraid to let him go; I've seen too many girls be afraid and stay in the relationship just because. Sort out your feelings and go from there. Hope that helped and good luck.
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