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long distance-- does he still love me?
this is going to be long... and im sorry.
ive known this guy for 3 years and i fell in love with him, and he, me. he moved 1000 miles away after we fell inlove. we dated while he was gone. (he still is) but after 6 months, we broke up. that;s what we both wanted. there was no communication. last xmas (almost a year ago) he came back down here to visit me & his family. we ended up going to the movies (which is rare for me) and we fell in love again. but i didnt realize i still LOVED him until after he went back home. for a while after he left, we kept in contact and we were in love agian. but he didnt want a relationship. w/e. recently, we have been drifting apart. he blames it on his parents because they made him move 1000 miles away. i blame it on me because i cant be there with him. i know. im hard on myself. dont tell me that. i blame myself for everything. but idc about that.
my question is....
he never makes an effort. im always the one messaging him, iming him, etc. whenever i ask him if he loves me, he always says of course i do. it makes me depressed that he doesnt make an effort. cause i feel that he doesnt love me. we seldom talk. he barely responds to my messages. he doesnt call anymore (he has free longdistance calling--i dont--so he always called me so i didnt have to pay). but does he still love me even though he's not making an effort. idk if he's lying to me. i really love him. seriously. its actually love. i can tell. but, im tired of crying over this. if he doesnt love me, im moving on. (o. and hes coming down for my bday in april.)
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You have to sit him down and talk to him over the phone. Ask him to be completely honest with you and ask him how he really feels about the entire situation and if he would like to keep things going. If he intended to keep things going, you need to let him know how you feel and that you would like more on his part to be done.
It could be that he does not realize that he is letting things fall apart and isn't trying as hard because he doesn't why should since (he might see) things are ok. So talk it out with him and sort our your feelings. It will take a lot of work and sacrifice to maintain a long distance relationship, especially one like that - but if you are both up to that then there is no problem and you should both keep it up. Hope that helped and good luck.
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