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Coping with Negative Feelings
Before I start, I DON'T suffer from depression.
However, I'm one of these people who finds it difficult to cope with erring on a regular basis. Unfortunately, I am the sort of person who makes a lot of mistakes and they are seldom tiny ones. At any rate, they are not tiny to me.
I lost a book, borrowed from someone else, which held a note inside that was very precious to me. I cannot find it anywhere and it has been missing for a week.
I also made a huge mistake at work today which has cost the company nearly £500. It could have been avoided had I successfully engaged that grey matter.
On top of it all, I forget EVERYTHING because I have the memory of a goldfish. I have some health problems which may be the cause of my memory problems but it isn't the point.
The point is, how do I cope with the periods of self-loathing I experience after making one of these almighty stupid (and avoidble) mistakes? Yes, everyone makes them but I'm very hard on myself because I make so many that affect other people. It makes me angry and upset with myself and I don't know how to deal with that.
Any suggestions would be gratefully received.
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You are not alone. We all make mistakes and most of the time our mistakes affect others. You are sensitive to your own mistakes, and feel badly for them, because you are a caring person. Ask your doctor and pharmacist for suggestions on medicines and natural herbs to improve memory function. Memory function will improve if you are getting plenty of sleep and eating healthy, staying hydrated. Concentrate on what you can do, and let yourself off the hook. It is not your fault that you are human, have extraneous medical circumstances or that you are not perfect. I have a feeling that if it was not your memory it would be something else about yourself that bugged you. Did you grown up in a critical environment in which you were not allowed to make a lot of mistakes? Love yourself flaws and all. Accept yourself and realize the next time you are frustrated, that you are still a valuable person and mistakes are a part of life, everyone's life.
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Like you I tend to make stupid mistakes with huge ramifications, for me it has gotten much better due to a system that I developed for myself. First of all I write down EVERYTHING not on tiny scraps but on yellow legal pads that i then keep in a portfolio. I copy all my notes once a day (at work) and keep a copy at my desk which never leaves my desk and one in my briefcase. Secondly before I do anything at work I stop and think for AT LEAST 1 solid minute. I also am taking a "booster" twice a day, I mix it in with juice so there is no taste. You can buy the ingredients in a health food shop. gingsing (helps energy), Echinacea, Rose Hip and Vitamin “C” (helps boost health and immune system), and Gingko (helps boost memory, brain power, reduces stress and improves alertness).
So now that I have revealed my top secret hints ha ha ha, in order to feel better when you do screw up and believe me we all do, you need to do a couple of things; first learn to forgive yourself, use daily affirmations no matter how dumb you feel develop a mantra to say to yourself OUTLOUD. Secondly accept that you are not perfect everyone makes mistakes ask yourself this question when you make one, can you change or turn back time to undo your mistake? No so instead of being hard on yourself allow yourself a set time to be annoyed say 5 minutes and then let it go and try and rectify the problem. The stress you put yourself under is probably making you make more mistakes. Take your time and things should improve.
Sorry so long, hope this helps.
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Well, I don't know about coping your self loathing periods.
But as for the memory thing, go ask your doctor if your health problems may be interfering with your memomry. Short Term Memory maybe?
Also before you do something, think about it carefully, see if there will be a huge negative effect. And if you are going to place an object, stay away from drawers or covered places. Put it up on like a surface or something
If you want, why don't you put a list of what you did, where you placed something and such to the smallest detail on a piece of paper and start a collection of it in a box or something...video tape the day?
During your periods of self loathing, think about the good things that you've done. Fun times, happy times and steer away from what happened and negative thoughts and memories and such.
I'm sorry you're having this prob...>.>
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