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i just can't move on
My boyfriend and I broke up a few days ago and he's gotten over me easily, but I just can't get over him. Every boy I go out with no matter even if I didn't like them a lot I still can't get over them. I've been trying to find hott guys and I've found some and they asked me out but I turn all of them down because I love my ex. My ex has moved on and won't even answer my calls or anything. We blocked eachother, we arn't friends on myspace, and I just deleted his number so there is no way I can talk to him. But I still can't get over him. Even when I see a wicked hott guy I just don't get the same feeling I did when I was with my boyfriend. How do I get over him??
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wow this almost sounds like me but the thing is yu have t tryy...and to get over him i think yu should think of things he's done that you did'nt like that another guy could have done cuz if he got ovr yuu sweetz and yuu did'nt he truly did'nt like orluv yuu he ain't worth it!!
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Was this guy special to you because he was a "first love" or something close to that? Females usually become more emotionally involved at an earlier age in relationships than males. It sounds like you really refused to let go, and tried to make him do the same. What did you like about him? Are you obsessed with him or just that "same feeling" you once experienced while with him. You also shared that you've had this problem with guys you "didn't like a lot." Do you like yourself better when you are someone's girlfriend? Does it make you feel pretty, loved, cared for, or valued? Those are truly wonderful feelings, and I don't blame you for wanting to feel that way all the time. The trouble is that feelings come and go in relationships. The good news is that you can feel valued and loved a lot more than you do now, but it cannot come from another person. You have to love yourself. Think about your talents, thoughts, desires, goals...anything that makes you, YOU! Spend more time admiring your own wicked good traits and make the boys wait for you!
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You get over a relationship when you give yourself time to get over it. You only broke up a few days ago babe!
Unless your ex was a completely soulless freak of nature, he isn't over the breakup either. So stop thinking that he is just because some people tell you so. Besides that, you don't need to want another guy in your life just because your ex has moved on, those two things are completely unrelated. Don't judge yourself based on him. Take care of yourself.
Give yourself some time babe. It's okay to be upset! It's okay not to be interested in other guys when you are upset! It's okay to still have feelings for someone even though you've decided the relationship wouldn't work out.
If you still haven't gotten over him in two months, then start to worry. For now, eat copious amounts of ice cream, cry your eyes out, watch Jackie Chan movies, whatever you want to do to mourn the loss of the relationship! Give yourself a break. Good people don't just pick up after a break up and move on, good people deal with the loss, and move on when they are good and ready.
You might really miss having a boyfriend, but you don't need one right now and you'll find a much better guy when you are actually ready to look for one, so don't force something that doesn't fit.
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