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we both love eachother but we dont know what to do...
ok my bf and i have been together for a year and half now on and off. I'm 17 and hes 18. we have gone through alot together, with our families not liking eachother, sex, drugs, alcohol, trust problems, suicide, and one of the biggest problems we have is that he is a Jehovah's Witnesses and I am not religious. We both know that he isnt suppose to date right now until hes ready to marry but we both love eachother with all of our hearts and care tons. we dont know what to do. the way he takes on this situation is that we should stop dating so he can basically "grow up" and i really think he should "grow up" some because i dont feel he takes me or this relationship really seriously, like he knows this is what he wants but he doesnt want this now and he doesnt get how much i want and need this right now, also i dont believe you can put a relationship on hold...and this all brings the stress and arguing to everyday and i hate arguing and fighting with him...please any help would be great
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If this guy thinks that he can put your relationship on hold then it's not going to be much of a relationship.I don't know the whole story here but it sounds like you 2 don't have very much in common so i would look for another guy that does share the same intrests as you until this guy "grows up".So maybe when he does get older you guys can start hanging out and see how it works or this other guy that you might look for could turn out really GREAT!
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I don't believe in putting a relationship on hold either. Religion is a major part of some peoples' lives and if they don't agree and can't agree to disagree, they need to go their separate ways. I don't understand what you mean by you've gone through a lot together and then you list sex, drugs, alcohol, trust problems, and suicide. If you guys have had sex, he's going against his religion. Drugs and alcohol are the same way. So he needs to decide if he's going to follow it all of the way or not at all because you can't be in a religion 50% it's 100% or 0%. He might be using this as a cop-out.. it kind of sounds like it, but I don't know much about the situation so it's just a guess.
My best advice would be to sit down and talk with him, and if you guys can't reach an agreement you need to break up - for good. Later down the road if you want to get back together, go ahead.. but don't put the relationship on "hold" because those don't work.
Good luck, and I'm sorry you're going through this!
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