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I nead to know if i should call my child after his fathers s
Hi Im Stuggling trying to make a dicision. i registered my sons surname after his fathers at birth, i have always been the real carer to our son also finantially. when i registered my son with my doctor i registered him after my surname and also with the creche he goes to. he is changing to motessori in a few weeks and is getting to the stage now where he is going to be more curiose about his secound name iv heard him once say his name with my surname after it. i feel i should have called him after me at birth registration but did not as i taught then that me and his father would get married. but im not sure that will be the case now.
but i do not want to confuse him what will i do my name even suits him better. this may all seem silly to some but it is really causing me a head ache. I just want the best for my son !!! thank you for reading i hope someone can help me to sort this out.
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Hello,
Since you are the financial caretaker and will be this child's #1 parent in life, it will only make life easier if he changes his name to your surname. He is little and probably will not question that much, you just need to explain to him that you want for him to have your surname.
Going and asking a child pyschiatrist on how to deal with the issue is a good idea, but this child needs your surname and it will be much easier for you and your child when this happens.
Why should your child have the surname of a man that is not the number 1 caretaker in his life forever. That doesn't make much sense and it may confuse your child also.
Good Luck!
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You didn't say how old you are, but my story may help. When I was 17 and pregnant my boyfriend and I were positive we were going to be together for the rest of our lives, so when my daughter was born I gave her his last name. Well she's now six and hasn't seen her father in four years. So my personal opinion is that unless you are married when the child is born, he should have your last name, you can always change it later if you do decide to get married, and if things don't work out or he decides to take off, then your son and you will have the same name. You could also hyphenate the two names, so that you have both names in there regardless of marriage or not.
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