hey.
ok . I have this guy friend and were close and we hang out alot. he brought one of his friends to the mall. and after the mall, me and his friend kinda liked each other. well he liked me alot and im like sorta. but then we started hanging out alot....so now we both like each other alot. and...he has a girlfriend. were kinda mutal friends. and everytime we went to the movies he would be like kiss me and id be like no you have a girlfriend and hes like im gonna break up with her. and im like i dont think thats a good idea. Ok well he just broke up with her and now hes I/M'ing me saying who do you like? and im like im not sure and hes like not me huh and im like idn. Okk. i really like him and i want to go out with him. Yes..theres another problem. someone told his ex that we were like flirting alot and stuff. and shes kinda my friend. so now if i go out with him shell imediatly believe the rumors are true. Most of the rumors are a little true but i didnt kiss him and everyone thinks i did.
so do you guys think i should just wait for a while untill there break up is completly over and shes dating someone else to go out with him. but what if he doesnt want to wait. should i tell him that i just want to wait to go out cause of his ex. hed probably understand.
ohh and hes kinda of a player...yeahh not good.
[ Answer this question ] Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life? Laf16 answered Saturday July 29 2006, 12:32 am: talk to him about it... tell him your situation.. and be like look i really like you.. but i dont want to do that .. your x is my friend.. and i dont want to do that to her.. just wait.. but for now play it cool... he might get mad... but his x will probably rebound... and when she does start flirting w/ him again... this worked for me... but his x liked my x so we kinda swapped, and she couldnt be mad at me and i couldnt be mad at her because we both did the same thing (that sounds kinda bad, but it realllly wasnt at all)... i hope that helped [ Laf16's advice column | Ask Laf16 A Question ]
MARISSAX33 answered Friday July 28 2006, 4:29 pm: This is a toughy. But if you really like him you should go out with him. If the girl doesn't understand when you try to tell her what happened before you went out with him then you probably need to let her go out with another guy before you guys talk again That way she's less likely to hold a grudge (although some people hold grudges still so goodlucK!). But seriously if you like someone then you shouldn't care what other people think. And if you flirted at the mall you didnt know he had a gf yet anyways and at least you tried to stop from kissing him because of his gf so everybody should give you that instead of making up rumors but not everybody is like that. So just go out with him if you really like him.
xldywing answered Friday July 28 2006, 4:21 pm: first of all, if you have rumors going around about the two of you - that's never good news. and second of all, if this guy broke up and immediately gets with another girl, it'll seem like the guy was using his ex-girlfriend. you first have to know what you want, the key point to any problem in life. do you want to get with him and lose a friend? and since you say that he'll probably understand if you told him that you want to wait. if a guy really likes you and really wants to be with you, he'll understand. hope the best of luck to you! :D [ xldywing's advice column | Ask xldywing A Question ]
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