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Letting him go..
I cant seem to let my ex go. I have known him over 1/2 of my life. We were best friends but a terrible thing (rape) happened to me by his best friend and rumors that I cheated left us to break up. I was demanding and selfish and abusive towards him and it messed up a lot of our relationship. We both got locked up around the same time do to our behavior...Now I have gotten out and changed around my life. Im doing very well and I have matured and grown up some. He is still locked up and we have the same counselor...But i keep having dreams of him and I constantly think of him. I love him..and I know he cares about me, but at this time I just cant get him off of my mind. He gets out in a few months, and he is doing very well. I pray all the time for god to help me let him go if there isnt a reason for him to still be in my life but it just wont go away. I need some advice on what I can do. I mean I am already occupied, Im a cheerleader, I workout a lot, I keep myself busy, but anytime I have time to think...its mainly about regrets and what i couldve done to help our relationship not ruin it. Past is past and i know that but I cant seem to move on! Any advice?
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Aw.. it means like your in love with this dude.It's always hard to let go of a ex. In your case I don't think you should come on because you still have strong feelings for him , and maybe there is a reason why they're there? And knowing him a long time does have alot to do with it.So I don't think you should move on.Don't ever regret anything in life because at one point it was exactly what you wanted to do/ happen.. ♥
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Well it seems to me like this person is BIG in your life.
His friend shouldn't of been like that & he shouldn't of let his friend do that. Wheather he'd known or not. One thing i would have to say to you is that you had a right to be angry at him & you guys should of just taken it as a fight & not leading towards the end of your relationship. & your right! He does care about you he cares that somthing bad happend to you & he should of been there for you when you fall. But one thing you need to know is moving on is really really hard.
You just have to know that maybe he wasn't the right one for you. & maybe next year or this year you will find sombody else new & you might think you are in love... but you never know. You just have to know when its right & when its not.
You will one day find that special person.
I have faith in you.
I hoped a helped out.
Nicole Lynn.
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I think the real question is not how to forget him, but do you actually want to forget him?
This man has been a big part of your life and because of sercomstances things went sour for you to, and it's like you said past is the past, so why not start over? being with him doesnt mean going with him (unless you want to and the time is right)
Im just saying, everything in life has a purpose, so maybe there is a reason you dream of him, you had the same counselor, you both were locked up at the same time.
I could be wrong, but hey, love is strong, and i you said it yourself ,you love him. so follow your heart, it will lead to happiness, but peoople on this site on't
I wish you luck and happiness
Jon a.K.a GateKeeper
BTW to answe your question it all really depends, life takes a mixture of things, they are 1)faith (and im not talkin bout like" Have faith in jesus!") 2)heart 3) brains
you must always have faith in how things will work out because all things must be equal in life, it must have both a positive and a negative,. the trick is to always find the positive fore often it is harder to see.
To get far in this life you must you a mixture of your brain's and your heart, listen to your heart because it will tell you what you want, but also listin to your mind because it will help you find how to properly get to what you want without loosing more.
So my answer is simple, follow your heart, go with the flow but always use your head, never leap into somthing without thinking about it. that often leads to the negative side of a dicesion rather than the positive side of a decision
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hey.. sounds liek you hav com eout and you're doing amazing. you've knwon this guy a long time and you;re not just going to forget him are ya? you alredy knwo that you hav to leep yourself occupied.. just dont forget it is equally important to think about it. you hav to think of where you are in your life an like dontfoget him, just accept how things are atm, n how things will never be the same but if you end up together or something, then you two would only hav gone through more. think about it liek you prob hav. just dont forget who you are :)
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