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Online Dating/how do we read people
Online Dating/how do we read people
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Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
We all go on line to find that someone special to be with...However, some people experience the same problem. In my past and most recent research, getting feedback from different women, we run in to issue that some of the male (and female) do not reveal basic information, like looks, weight and height, their nationality and the background. They place pictures of someone else, or the pictures of five to ten years old.
The women advised me that these man want to talk on line, via e-mail but really avoiding to meet. It is obvious that some people are insecure about themselves, but how is it going to help to meet someone. Let's be real and honest with each other; and feel comfortable in our own skin.
Some of us have some extra pounds we want to loose; some of us feel to skinny, or to short.... Some things can be changed, some cant. So, except who you are for what you are, let other people see the real you.
I personally had a situation 3-4 years a go, when I went on the blind date arranged through online dating. Oh boy, what a disaster. The guy had two different pictures changed within two weeks before we met; one pic was a tall blond guy; the other strangely enough was shorthaired brunette (??). He also kept putting away the meeting, and then right before we met he started telling me how he gained some pounds (which is ok, we are humans!); but this whole thing seemed a little fishy to me, so I agreed to meet this guy on a day time for lunch with my friend.
Oh, how wrong I was! the guy shows up, totally different person then on the pics he had posted; severely overweight (I have no problems with overweight people!) and with incredibly annoying attitude. I did not want to be rude, but escaped as soon as possible. Why do you lie? To get the women out of the house, and harass her?
I advised the person, that I am not interested, but he ended up sending me e-mails with profanity, which I reported to the online dating website.
We are not looking for perfection guys! We are looking for normality, honesty, and respect!
My friend had a similar situation, where she met someone who was totally bragging about himself forever, describing himself as a Greek Italian; making up stuff about himself, and telling my friend how he can fall in love with her (all via e-mail and phone).
When she met the guy, he happened to be Indian; totally different looking then the he described (pics). And he ended up coming on to my friend, pushing to go to the hotel (??).
This is not trying to hard, this is plain crazy?
So, the moral of this topic is please guys and girls, be real and honest about yourself; you will find more "acceptance" this way.
And, last but not least, some women do the same things, to get more noticed, and the guys feel mislead and frustrated.
Regards,
Tanya
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