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What happens in the relationship, and how to keep it going
What happens in the relationship, and how to keep it going
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Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
Why we are we so anxious to find someone to be with, to share our lives with; and then
when we find that person, we get over the initial infatuation, and start getting a little
bored and inpatient.
We start to look another way: how nice it was to be single, and do what ever we want,
be soooo available, and have our ultimate freedom of doing whatever...
However, when you are alone, you are so lonely, so you get depressed about how much
you want to meet someone..
What kind of cycle is it? Why when we get what we want, we start looking for something else
that may be missing in our life....
I think this is the tendency of ours (humans); no matter how much you have, you want more or
something new...We do not realize how much we already have, and how much it will hurt to loose
it, and how much you will miss it when it is not there...
Many times we feel that the person we are with is no longer exciting, or not interesting..he or
she doesnâ??t look the same, doesnâ??t dress the same, and doesnâ??t have as much enthusiasm to do the same
things you used to do..All of sudden, you feel like you need "space" from this person,
you need sometime apart to concentrate on your own things and your own life; you definitely do
not want to break up with this person, but you are looking for something else...
I think what happens to us (men and women);is that, we start a relationship by seeing each other
on the daily basis; overwhelmed and overjoyed by each other; can't get enough of each other
type of thing; and then we just get way to "cozy" around each other; way to 'comfortable"
way to close....There is no longer the motivation to put on the make up, dress up sexy, go out
dancing; no more desire to eat "healthy" to keep the good shape; no reason to work out..
Sounds familiar? and the problem is we do not motivate each other enough to change, we just going
with the flow; feel like oh, she/he already loves me, so what couple of pounds here and there,
who needs to dress up and look good, since we will end up crushing in the house for some?
junk food and a movie..hah? Then the relationship becomes dull, boring, sparkless..
Then we start looking for the reason to get out...
Why don't we look at this another way...Why don't we find the very reason and the very essence why we are together in the first place? Is it worth saving it all!
Why not to try to change things around, it is never too late..really..if you care enough for someone.;and if you want to be with that person for a long timeâ?¦
Why not to have a romantic dinner, versus just a regular diner or food to go..
Why not to try to look and feel sexy for each other; it is always refreshing to see your partner
looking more exciting, then the usualâ?¦
How about to try to get back to the gym (the membership youâ??ve been paying forever), and get some more energy and also get some exercise..
How about taking a long walk on the beach..have a nice conversation about how youâ??ve met;
And all the cute details about how you started going out..
How about going away for the weekend, sort of home away from home, like going to another city
About an hour or two away.
How about, going dancing like you are used to..
How about taking all the drama in your life, and try to have a positive outlook on it, and try to be
Happy and live for the day!
How about the men sends a bouquet of roses to her work (ok not so original, but it will make her feel very special)
How about the women, take off our every day dominatrix outfit, and try to be more delicate, feminine and gentle..
Meet each other for lunch; if your work schedule and distance allows that.
Try it and see what happens!
Thanks,
Tanya
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