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sick and tierd
one of my best friends is reall y mean to me. everything i do is wrong and its always MY fault. she gets mad at the littleist things. all i have to do is call her cell phone and she starts a HUGE fight. im sick and tierd of it!!!!!!! but shes also best friends with all my other best friends and she rides my bus. so i cant avoid her and its kinda hard not to be friends with her since we have been friends for a while but i dont know what to do!!! i need help so i would love it thank in advance!!
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I actually had a similar problem with a friend a while ago and although it is hard, it does reach a point where you just have to draw the line.
I know that it is difficult but try to look at it this way...if you just met her today, would you still want to be her friend? If you are having difficulties with friends, this is often the best way to assess the situation. If in your heart of hearts you know she is not really a good friend to you, then you need to get out of the friendship.
The chances are, it won't be as easy as just breaking off contact with her so you may need to stand up for yourself during the next argument and tell her you want nothing more to do with her. After this point, she may well try to get back in contact with you and make you be friends with her. If she makes you miserable now, resist this. It's easy to go back and you will end up going through the same thing again. Sadly, I know this from experience.
Stand up for yourself, tell her you deserve better from a friend and leave it at that. Then, go and make the most of your other friends or make new ones.
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well maybe its time to find new friends or tell her that she is mean to you and to get respect you have to give respect at your school talk to people she doesnt talk to and find new friends its kindda like moving but your not walk to school if your not in a far distance from your school or ride bike or have your mom or dad drive you or a relative that means you dont have to talk to her on the bus but if that doesnt work i dont know just talk to her then but it worked for me
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If she is truly your friend, she must not realize she is being really mean to you! I think you should try and calmly tell her that when she picks fights with you, or gets upset with you that it really hurts your feelings, and ask her to try to be a little more considerate.
If she doesn't change her hurtful behavior, I recommend not calling her cell phone, and trying to hang out with her less. Since she is friends with your friends and rides your bus, I know that you and she will still see eachother, but that doesn't mean you have to be her friend and put up with her treating you badly. You can be civil and polite to her without being friendly and without encouraging a friendship with her. Who knows, after a few days of giving her the cold shoulder (without being overtly mean) she may realize that you mean business and stop her hurtful behavior!
Hope everything works out!
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Look i have a best friend too that is like that. You should just sit her down and talk and if that doesn't work just say if your going to treat me like this then i don't think we should be friends. Just talk to your friend. K
sincerely Corie
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Try to be patient with her and calmy try to talk to her. If you are doing nothing wrong with absolute assurity, just don't talk to her for awhile. If your friend asks why you haven't been hanging out with her as much, or talking to her lately, tell your friend the truth; tell her she is always starting arguments and fights for no reason at all, and ask if she can change that behavior. If she can't understand then don't be friends with her anymore.
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