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Handicaped relative dealing with high school
Hi im 15 and going into grade 10 this year and i have a cousin who is mentaly and partialy phycialy handicaped and is going in to high school this year. Im really worried for him because people in high school can be so mean and im afraid he wont be able to deal with it. He has older siblings in high school but they dont seem to be worried. Am i just over reacting?? Also out of the whole family hes really attached to me and dont get me wrong i love him n all its just i dont know if i can handle the fact of him hanging out with me all the time, I know im really selfish and need to get a grip but this fear is ruining my whole summer and i can't stop thinking about it, plz help me if you can! Thank you so much for listenig.
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ok as for the first issue yes highschool kids can be mean but in my experience most highschool kids are extremely tolerant of someone with physical and mental impairments (I was surprised at first too cause I thought the same as you). I think that he needs to have as much normalization as possible and if it doesn't work then at least he tried.
As for your concern about him hanging out and clinging to you I think that he will probably make friends if not and you are feeling really overwhelmed then you need to be honest with him and tell him that although you love him and like hanging with him at school sometimes you need time for your other friends. If you tell him in a way where you are assuring him that you love him and like spending time with him he will get the message and not be hurt. You are not being selfish at all, highschool is hard for a "normal" teen let alone when your cousin will soon be invading your life! Take it one day at a time and if you start to get really stressed talk to someone about it.
As for stressing about it now and letting it ruin your summer look at it this way: Can you change having your cousin come to your school? Does worrying about the future make it better? No so try to push to the back of your mind for now and wait and see what happens.
Let me know if this helps or if you need to talk again.
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