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Bleh.
I feel so badly right now.
Okay, this guy and I met on the internet. Hes from PA. Talked for a long time, as friends. And then it just happened, like..idk the romantic feelings came for the both of us. I know internet relationships are extremely lame. so please don't tell me again. But I mean, he gave me emotional support, that i needed. and he's taught me so much about life, and all that jazz.
well we got in a big huge argument last week. about me smoking/doing drugs and his drinking. I think we said a lot of shit we didnt mean to. but we both agreed to stop smoking/ drinking completely, so things should be fine. and for me it feels like things aren't the same. we supposably made up or whatever, so everything should be fine. but something inside of me just, makes me feel bad.
well hes going to bootcamp for 4 months on monday. all we have are letters to talk and stuff. and i dont even know what to do. should i stay with him? because i know if i don't, that'll be really mean of me to do right before he goes to bootcamp (which hes extremely stressed about i think.). or should i just let him go and never talk to him again. he said hes coming to california no matter what after he gets out. so there could be a chance that i talk to him again.
bleh.
theres so much to this whole thing,
its hard to write it all out.
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You need to support him. This is a hard time in his life trust me. My friends brother just went off to boot camp. His mom writes him everyday. I would suggest writing him every other day. Just wait and see what is going to happen. Bootcamp isn't as bad as it used to be.
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Well I'm assuming you have never met this guy before. And are you guys a couple, as in officially dating? Or are you guys just two friends that really, really have emotional feeling for eachother that could become more? The fact that you guys are making changes in your lives for one another and also making sacrifices in order to continue this relationship shows that you guys have alot of love for eachother. Or atleast a lot of major like going on. If you guys have met before, then you have already gone through the whole awkwardness of meeting someone online for the first time and getting to know him at a way more intimate level... since the Internet is a lot less personal than actually experiencing a relationship in person.
And just for the record, I do not find Internet dating at all lame. Although I have never considered it, my brother is currently dating a girl he met online a year ago, and they have been dating for a couple months and just recently first met after a couple weeks of dating exclusively. And my best friends sister met her fiance online. They dated online, never meeting, for three years, and then finally met.
Online dating is risky, because it is so inexclusive. You don't know if that person is who they say they are, plus you only know how they are when they are talking to you online, not in person, so it is hard to figure out their personality fully. But if you trust this guy and believe he is legit, than the next step is to follow your intuition.
Do you like him alot? Is he worth the risk of continuing a relationship with, and possibly getting hurt or feeling regret afterward? If it is yes, than I suggest continuing your relationship. By the way, if one fight makes you uneasy then you need to consider why it is making you hold a grudge. What things were said that you still can't get over? Why do you feel like that fight has changed your feeling, if it has? Consider these questions and consider your future with this guy. After bootcamp, do you want to meet up with him in California and start a more exclusive relationship? You have time to think about things so take your time. And if you want to continue things, take your time getting to know him. It is a big adjustment from talking to someone online, and then meeting them and being with them all the time in person. So take it slow so that you fully get to know eacother better in person and get to fully take in one another personality quirks.
I hope I helped and I'm sorry my answer was long. If you have any more questions note my inbox.
~Sherah
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Hey there,
Number one not all internet relationships are doomed that is how I met my husband. You need to look at this situation with a little bit more realism, what I mean is yes you feel close and have genuine attachment to this man but have you even met him in person? I mean for all you know when you do meet he could turn you off, lets face it not all internet pics are accurate and he may look good "on paper" but in reality he is not the one for you. I think that before making any major decsions you should continue writing him and keeping in contact but don't shut all the doors for other people to come into your life. If you do meet someone else then you should look at your current situation as more of a friend then relationship, I mean you don't do any of the "normal" dating stuff (Yes I am assuming) if you do meet someone new then you can tell the current man that due to distance and other issues you feel you would be better off as friends then soulmates.
I hope the helps.
Sara
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