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my friend
so about two months ago i found out that my best friend basically was talking about me behind my back, so i told her off and we both got really pissed and just stopped talking. last week she apologized and it seemed like she meant it so i told her it was ok. so the other day she was at my house and she was on advicenators.com, and i guess she forgot to log out because today i came onto this site and clicked on "your questions" and saw that they werent mine so i was confused and i clicked on one. in it she basically bashed our whole group of six friends, she said only herself and my two other friends were pretty and she said one of them was only pretty "sometimes". then she continued to talk about another friend (who even though she used a different name, i could tell was me because she talked about the same stuff that she was using to talk about me behind my back) and how she thought that i COULD be pretty but im ugly right now and how can she help me. but she made it sound like im some person who doesnt know how to take care of myself, like i have no idea how to use a razor and i never wash my face so its all greasy, which is NOT true. i started shaving even before she did! and im not sure how i should react cause in one way its flattering that she cares about me enough to want to help me with my "problems", but in another way im insulted because she said that "no guys pay attention to her" which isnt true, a bunch of guys have specifically said that they thought im hot. and she said that i always wear the same clothes and that even when its really hot out ill wear jeans and a sweatshirt, but its really mean of her to assume that because she doesnt understand that im really self conscious cause shes like the skinniest person alive shes a size 00 and im a size 5, and she doesnt know that so she talks about how her friend who is a size 3 is fat to me. and when i first the question she wrote i was so mad at her, she was making all these rude accusations when she doesnt even know the truth. it makes me not wanna be friends with her anymore knowing that she thinks of me as like a little girl who doesnt know how to take care of herself and needs "help". but i cant confront her about it cause then she'll know i was snooping on her account, even though it was an accident. what do u think i should do to prove her wrong about all that? sorry this was so long. thanks!!!
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Hm. Interesting.
Well, you should really talk to your friend about it. Yes, she'll most likely be angry that you were snooping in her account, but she is at fault for staying logged in. And I think you had a right to wonder. And you definately have the right to know. If she were your real friend, she would've stopped talking about you behind your back when you guys "became friends again"
As for what you added about being concieted, she probably puts everyone around her down just to bring her self-esteem up. This kind of person soudns like someone I wouldn't want to be friends with.I dunno about you though.
You basically have to choose between two things here.
a) Don't tell her and let her keep betraying your friendship
b) Talk to her about it and take the chance of losing a friend, who sounds like they weren't a friend in the first place.
I hope this helped and good luck =)
Feel free to send another inbox if you need further help.
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Hey!<br/>
Wow, I am so, so sorry for everything that had happened. <br/>
Personally, in my opinion, I think that she's just really, really jealous of you. <br/>
Well, I would ask her about the site and ask if she had a username and if so, what it was and if she tells you say "Hey, I go on advicenators too, and I ask questions, so I thought that they were my answers, because I didn't know that you went on it,I was just really hurt about some of the stuff you said and I was hoping that we could talk about it." <br/>
You are not fat! A size 5 is perfect! And I, in my opinion, this a size 00 is WAY too skinny, it might be going through depression, or an eating disorder but I'm not 100% shure, only about half. <br/>
Well, if you don't want to use that one idea, considering you said you couldn't confront her, I'd start talking about stuff and use the stuff she used in her questions to maybe describe stuff and if she gets a little jittery then you should know what's up. <br/>
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I'm really sorry if I didn't answer your question fully! If you need more help inbox me *&& I will answer the questions. Nothings ever to long!
<br/> Well Good lucky and I hope everything goes well! <br/>
♥Christina
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Well, has she ever done it before to you? Has she ever talked about you behind your back before this incident? If she's done it before, then it would be a good idea to end the friendship since it seems like she wont be changing any time soon and will probably continue to stab you in the back in the near future.
But if this was her first time in being rude to you or making mean comments about you, then you ought to forgive her and remain friends with her. Because it could have been just a bad mistake she did and she didn't mean it. But if she does it again in the future, find yourself a new best friend who wont talk trash about you behind your back. i hope i helped :)
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