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she will not elave me alone


Question Posted Friday July 7 2006, 11:44 am

Dear Brenda,

I'm a girl I'm 15 years old. There has been this girl that was in my youth group (which I hated) and who went to my school. (She graduated this year) and like EVERYDAY in the hall at school she would wave and say Hi it was SO annying.

Shes a senior, geez, i wish she would leave me alone, no one really likes her htough, but i see why, she annoys people.

But I think she wont leaveme alone because I dont want to go to youth groupp.
But now it summer, and shes called me 3 times now, asking me if I wanted to go for coffee, and my answers have been NO, even my mother told her no, and I'm so frustrated, will she ever stop? and why do you think shes obsessving over me?

I mean I'm going to be a sophmore, and shes going to be graduated doesnt she have anyone else she can annoy? I dont want to be her friend either btw. Not in a mean way, but blah.


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helpmebrenda answered Saturday July 8 2006, 2:02 am:
Hi

In my opinion she REALLY wants to be your friend, which would be nice except for the fact that you don't want to be hers.

You've been good at telling her no to her invitations and phone calls, but maybe it's time to be a little more forceful.

You can do this without being mean...which is important, because aside from being an annoying pain in your ass, she's probably a nice person.

Don't accept her phone calls...and if you answer the phone when she calls, just tell her you're busy and you have to go...and then hang up. If she starts talking to you in school or wherever you may bump into her, just say "gotta run" and walk away.

Hopefully if you keep ending the conversation quickly she will eventually get the point, and if she doesn't you may have to say nicely that you are not interested in a friendship with her.

If you talk to her and take her phone calls, you are leading her into thinking you want to be her friend. Nip that in the bud.

Just remember that she too has feelings, and it's never a good idea to stomp on anyone. Be nice, forceful, and get your point across.

Take care, and good luck.

Brenda

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