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Should we get back together?
Hi, I apologise for this may be a little long.
I got dumped a few weeks ago by this guy after this huge misunderstanding. Some guy tried to interfere and told me all these things about my bf, that he was cheating on me and saying things behind my back. I confronted my bf about it and he was really angry for not trusting him.. said we were over.. said it had been coming for a while and that was that.
Well, I blocked and deleted him and tried to forget about him. For two weeks we didn't contact each other at all. But I still thought of him and was upset about what happened. He wanted to "still be friends" but I don't believe in that personally. I thought having a complete break would make me get over him, but it didn't.
The other day I went on my old MSN account and I forgot my ex was still on there. After about 20 mins he IMed me and said "I've figured out who it was who said those things" I considered blocking him there and then, but I didn't. We started talking and soon we got onto the topic of us. I wanted him to stop because I didn't think it mattered anymore where it all went wrong.. but he said he wanted to let me know everything and he really wanted to work things out. We got everything out in the open, even argued a bit because he called me "sheltered" just because my mom was strict. But we went through everything and left on decent terms laughing and joking around like old times (We were friends for years)
We're meeting in person in a couple of days to talk properly, and there's a chance we might get back together. But I'm not sure whether it's a good idea. What should I do? Give him another chance, but slow down things for a while? Or just forget him and move on with my life? I'm still angry about being dumped and the fact he waited so long to do this.. but I still have feelings for him. Help? lol. Thanks.
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This all depends on what you want. You may enjoy just being friends with him, or you may not. He dumped you so you have nothing to feel guilty about when having these doubts, but think very carefully into this. What he sai9d about ''this has been coming for a while'' obviously meant he'd had at least mild doubts before hand, but he may have just been angry (most people would be if someone told them they'd heard about them cheating on you)...and he may have just felt he had no-one to blame. :) good luck
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So you're ex dumps you because he says you don't trust him, and that this "had been a long time coming"? Sounds to me like he's not worthy of your trust. If he had been thinking about dumping you for a while, then he probably isn't going to stick around this time either. If he isn't comfortable discussing issues that come up in your realtionship, it doesn't sound like he's mature enough to handle this realtionship at this point in his life.
By the way... did you ever figure out if these things that were being said were true? Did your ex ever discuss those issues with you? Or did he just jump right into the "you don't trust me" bit? If he never answered your questions, I would say these things are probably true and you should consider yourself lucky to be finished with him. These are some things I would be questioning before deciding to get back together with him.
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Really what I think you should do is wait and be friends with him for a while and see how that works after that take it slow don't go there and jump into it. Obviously you said that you are still upset about him breaking things off with you and before you get into it again you really need to to get over that. Let him know though you still have feelings for him and see how he takes it but tell him at first you want to take it slow so you can get a better grip on things then. Don't rush into it though you don't want it to end up like it did before so take your time.
Good luck,
Hope I helped
(If you would like more of my advice e-mail me at truelovers2104@yahoo.com)
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