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I dont wanna be to purshy but i dont wanna let him slip away
About a week ago, me and one of my best friends went to the beach which is about 4 hours from our city. We were in the water and we saw this guy surfing and he did good so we just complimented him and that was it. Or so we though. we didnt figure we'd see him any more. So we went in about 20 min later back in our hotel (which was on the shore) and went in the pool. and turns out that boy...lets call him Ian, stays at our hotel, is our age, is extremly gorgeous, and has ALOT! in common with me. Well aparently he was visiting with his dad and his dad took him to the beach as a surprise. And his dad lives only like 45-60 min away from where we live.The last day he was at the hotel, he wanted to meet up in the mornign for breakfast to say bye, but my cell phone got shut off the night before, so we couldnt call him to figure out what time to be there, so i figure he thought we ditched him.any way. He told me he was leaving for his moms like early early early july.(she lives like 4 states away). I want to call him off my moms fone, or ask him if he wants to hang before he leaves, because i realllllly like him. and he wont be back at his dads for like 8 months. But if i called him off my moms fone, i dont want him to think somthing like "wow she must really like me if she went through the trouble of finding some one elses fone to call, shes a but pushy, i dont like her like that." But i want to see him before he leaves, because if he goes then i'll miss my chance. and i might never see him. SO how do i ask him to hang with out being real obvious or too pushy? i really wanna see him. What could we do, thats not really flirty?
Also, i looked at his myspace and hes friends with all of these really pretty girls that are like models with alot of make up and perfect hair/face/bodies. and hes not dating them. SO it makes me wonder, if he dont even wanna date these models, what would he ever see in me?( im just average)
IDK, help please. I wanna stop him and see him before he leaves! or im going to regret this for ever!
SOrry its long. if this confuses you any let me know, and ill clear it up so you can understand better.
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you really wont come off to him as pushy. just explain to him the situation you were in with your cell phone. and ask him calmly if you guys could hang out before he leaves. go to the movies or hang out at one of your own houses. if he says no, its his big loss! well good luck with *Ian*
and let me know hoe everything goes.
Jess
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Don't worry about looking pushy! Thats not being pushy, trust me. Just call him up and say "hey my cell phone got shut off, and i didn't want you to think we ditched you" and go from there. Ask him to hang out before he leaves. And don't second guess yourself! Who says you aren't as good or better than these "models" ?! You are just self concious, like every other girl on the planet! But guys find confidence in girls a major turn on! So stop putting yourself down!
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Hi, sometimes in life we need to grab every opportunity that comes your way, because if you don't you might end up regreting it for the rest of your life. You would live to the present day thinking only IF or what IF. I think your young and have alot of talent and will get through life. Yes I think you should just ask this guy out. When you see him again just strike up a conversation. This can be about pritty much anything and maybe you could start off by saying hi and then something like "its a nice day today isn't it?" then followed by "are you watching the soccer world cup?" then take it from there. The best part about asking him out is:
a) You've got over the nervous part
b) Can meet up with him again and continue with discussion
Then from that discussion you can ask him out. This will be a nervous time for you, but remember that if you never ask then you never know and if you can't do the asking and talking part, then it's impossible for you to have a relationship with him. Good luck!!! and be yourself. Daniel.
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